10 November 2016

Women's Groups


One of the most treasured things in my life is gathering with women to support each other.

Being able to do this in a small way before and after the election was a healing balm.

And I long to get back to the Brooklyn sisterhood where we helped each other with our creative ideas, cooked for each other, shared ideas and stories, served together, and rose up together.

Do you feel like you have a sisterhood - a group of women in person or online? I'd love to hear what that looks like for you and what you do at your gatherings. I am sure people would love some ideas. I think this is something we all crave. 

Thank you for being here,

Mara

10 comments:

  1. Yes! I love the women in my life!!!
    I have my best girls who meet up every other weekend for girls night. Oh how I look forward to these nights!
    I have my running buddy who runs with me each day. I love our runs together! I live in a small town in Utah where everyone is very conservative. My running buddy is democrat and feminist like me so we have really great conversations as we run!
    My book club ladies are great too! I love having interesting discussions with interesting people about interesting books!
    Of course, my church ladies are always there to be a great example of service and friendship!
    I sure am thankful for the women in my life who have been there for me during this crazy week!

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    1. Looove hearing this. Love that you have these experiences so built in to your life. I had a walking partner in Brooklyn and it was the BEST. I have actually never been to a book club. Kinda weird, I know, as I think I'd love it. But for a decade I worked such long hours that things like that weren't an option. The church women, though - - ah, I had such a great experience with this, too. Such a great network.

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    2. Oh - I also had a Ladies Ideas Night - where we got together and talked about our business ideas or goals. We each would take a turn sharing and then brainstorming together. It was my favorite thing ever.

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    3. I bet you would love a book club!
      I love your idea of setting goals and taking about ideas with the women you love! My best girlfriend and I often talk about of goals and hopes for the future so we can encourage each other!
      I also meet weekly with other white moms who have adopted black children. We had such a great discussion at our last playgroup. We had a
      brief mourning session and then discussed what we can do from here:)
      I just wanted to say thank you for being a place of love!

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  2. I have a hard time making new women friends because I moved to a new city and do not have kids yet!! :/ I know it can be done. Any tips?!?!!?

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    1. Feeling for you here. Cause everyone needs some women friends!! I'll be working on making new friends in Brooklyn, before long, as many of our long-time friends have moved since we've been away. OK, a few ideas:

      -join a yoga class or meditation class or something like that. Afterwards just ask if anyone wants to grab lunch or tea.

      -get involved with a cause. Find some women who are joining to be a force of good and see how you can help. There is nothing that creates meaningful friendships faster than doing something meaningful together.

      -see if there's a church you might resonate with, if that's you're thing. I never considered church hopping myself, but I think church communities are so varied now - traditional, universal, conservative, liberal, etc. - that maybe one might feel like it resonates.

      -see if there's a neighbor or someone nearby who does some regular walking, running or tennis or what not. Perhaps you introduce yourself and join in - or even become walking buddies.

      -check some local forums - maybe there are some for women. Likely there will be some events. I know Pantsuit Nation is starting some local chapters.

      -If you hear of someone in need, just show up and do something for them. Let's say they just had a baby or they are going through something difficult, find a way to connect. Take a dinner to them or serve them in some way.

      -If you do meet some people, get in the habit of getting people's contact info. if you want to hang out again.

      -Once you have a small list of new acquaintances, host a little dessert night or dinner night or picnic - or a themed gathering for a holiday or birthday.

      Good luck!!! You've got this!

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  3. Oh girl, we met up with lots of old Brooklyn friends today! I wish we could all be together again. I go to a long standing playgroup in Riverdale at a Catholic Church in our neighborhood. Anyone can join, kids 3 and under but you have to be a parent or grandparent (no nannies because it's about moms socializing) we meet for 2 hours and we take turns bringing bagels. I look forward to it every week!!

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    1. Grace! Hi!!! So lovely to get this. Yay for Brooklyn. And yay for the playgroup. So glad you found that. I swear, that stuff can be a lifeline - esp. in the winter. Hope to cross paths with you before long.

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  4. I love all the ideas you listed for anonymous--I am going to try those! Since leaving the church that I grew up in, I am finding it hard to make friends. I have always had built in friends because of my church and now that that is gone I have to learn how to find and friend people with similar likes. Thank you for posting Mara!

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  5. This is definitely an issue for me since we move around a lot, the hardest parts are making new friends and finding a new hairstylist!

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