27 April 2016

Random Thoughts of the Day


Dearest readers,

Hope you all are doing great and having a fulfilling or meaningful week so far!

Here are few things I've been thinking about...

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Being vulnerable with loved ones and showing our true selves is an ACT OF LOVE. Yessss! And yet, too often we don't want to show our weakness. We hide away. We pretend we have everything together. We don't want anyone to know that we are imperfect. And it's so untruthful. And so our loved ones or colleagues will continue to wonder THIS unnecessary bull crap : "Is everything okay?" "Did I do or say something wrong?" "Why isn't she/he connecting with me?" "Am I not lovable?" And then a story gets started in their heads...one that is often not based on truth because they are left to wonder in the dark. And the ping pong of dishing out dysfunction to each other begins. Anybody with me here? All along, truth could have been shared. And two people could have embraced in human connection, understanding, and love.

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We just finished hosting our 14th retreat last week!! I must say, it feels incredibly triumphant for us. To think that we've put something out there - and it has been received. Um - that feels incredible. And I'm feeling deeply grateful for Danny. This guy! Oh, he is a superstar at our retreats. He truly is in his element with the management and logistics. It's been really great for us to find the ways in which we can contribute the most to this endeavor. We've come a long way with this and we've been learning a TON together!

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Adoption still isn't something we've made plans to pursue. I must say, all of this shocks even me! But, the timing just doesn't feel possible at the moment. We are still living in a foreign country, we are trying to keep up with our retreats and mentoring so that we can make a living doing something we love. So the energy and ability to start the massive adoption process - under our current circumstances - has not been there. In the meantime, we're getting older and older and I wish that wasn't the case. It's an unusual place to be in and admittedly, I wish I could stay young forever. At the same time, I'm sooo grateful that life has felt incredibly meaningful. That is a miracle to me and I don't take it for granted one bit. We will continue to try and make the most of our lives as best we can, even though our lives look different than we ever could have imagined. I know that if I can continue to do that, all will be well. And, if the opportunity to adopt does come along somehow in the future, we will embrace that wholeheartedly as well.

4. 
We're a little late on this, but we watched Making of a Murderer (made by Netflix) and O.M.G. it's one of the most gut wrenching stories I've ever seen. We just watched with our jaws on the floor. Have you seen it? Also, I served on a grand jury once in Brooklyn for an extended time. I can say that the experience was VERY disturbing, in regards to the thought processes and reasoning that the jury members would have. It also seemed like whomever spoke the loudest would sway the decisions the most. While the idea of a jury is great, I actually don't think enough random people are capable of absorbing all the details and making good decisions in a jury without "groupthink", preconceived ideas, outside influences, and judgements. And on top of that, the majority of the jurors DID NOT WANT TO BE THERE and were barely present! All the while, lives, families, justice and society were on the line! Anyway, I really, really wish there was a better way. What has your experience with jury duty been like?



5. 
Do you know that pizza is the most beloved food on earth? Haha. That's just my humble opinion. But trust me on this one, if you were dairy-free and gluten-free, chances are there would be NO OTHER FOOD that would pique your cravings more than pizza. (Anyone with me on that?) Here in Cuenca, being the apparent New Yorker food snobs that we are, there are not a lot of restaurants that we enjoy. But, there is a really good pizza place here, and it tortures me so. How I want to eat that pizza!

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Has anyone seen these articles suggesting high altitudes might be related to depression? Researchers have been studying the rampant depression in the Rocky Mountain states. I'm curious if anyone out there has experienced anything unusual mood-wise while living at a high altitude. I currently live at a MASSIVELY high altitude of 9,000 feet! And the truth is: I actually feel sluggish and not myself every time we come back from a trip. While in the States, I feel INCREDIBLE. Just full of energy and creativity galore! I've experienced this "switch" so many times now and it's so obvious. So I'm wondering if I could actually be someone who is affected by the high altitude. I'm personally excited to live at sea level again. :)

7. 
Because of this, I'm in the market for new underwear and I'll just leave it at that. Do you have some favorite underwear? :) :)



As always, we'd love to hear any of your thoughts. 

Hope your week is full of LOVE in big and small ways,

Mara


ANNOUNCEMENTS:
  • I put a feeler out on Facebook to see if people wanted one more Body+Soul Camp in Ecuador before we move back to the States. The answer was YES!! So we are working to narrow down the date, likely in mid-October, 2016. We should launch that next week.
  • Are we connected on Facebook yet? It's fun to stay in touch with you there.


33 comments:

  1. All these things! <3 I would like to talk about your underwear and see what others have to say! I'm on the hunt for same reason. I do have one unusual recommendation that is actually really awesome and I think you'd be interested. Cute underwear for your period (!) that are environmentally friendly and actually work. AND the company gives back in Uganda so girls there don't have to miss school thanks to their periods. Good all around! Love the idea of getting rid of my ugly old trashed undies and rock out my period in style! Haha

    -Regina

    http://www.shethinx.com/pages/power-of-the-purchase/

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  2. ah, thanks :) And yessss...I've had my eye on those underwear. It's genius. I almost linked to it in the post as I definitely want to try some. Though I guess you'd only wear them the week of your period, right? Or maybe they're comfortable to wear all month long? I need to look this up!

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    1. My friend wears hers to the gym so she doesn't get swear marks on her bottoms.... But as cute as they are I am looking for non period underwear to wear the rest of the month as well. ;)

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  3. I'm sorry you had a bad experience serving on a jury. I just finished serving on a three week trial, and I was really pleased with the way it went. We all were quite distraught at the beginning as we scrambled to figure out how we were going to be absent from work for such an unexpectedly long time -
    and definitely had some long, boring days during the trial, but overall I thought each person was respectful of the judicial process and one another. Of course, grand jury duty is a whole different ballgame, but try not to give up on our justice system just yet!

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    1. I'm so glad to hear you had a good experience!! thanks for sharing.

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  4. Patagonia undies. They fit well and last a long time, even if you forget and put them in the dryer all the time. They make them in just about every cut, too.

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    1. What!? I never would have thought to get underwear at Patagonia. Thanks for this. The colors are so great!!

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  5. I heard about this altitude depression after we moved away from Utah, we were there for about three years and had moved there from the L.A. (I'm also a AZ native). I was depressed for the first year we were there, but I always attributed it to a very stressful situation that occurred shortly after we moved there. So now I'm wondering if it was really the situation or the altitude, or maybe both?!

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    1. So, so interesting...
      It's been known for sometime that depression rates in Utah are some of the highest in the country. It would really be something if the altitude did, indeed, play a part.

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    3. I was in Breckenridge, CO for a week at 9000 feet plus, and found myself crying almost the whole time I was there! I didn't enjoy that trip, didn't feel good, was sooooo tired and cried a lot.

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    4. Wow. Really, really interesting. It would be fascinating to see if that would be a consistent reaction for you - You just need to visit CO for a week every few months! On my end, it's been very, very consistent and I've been observing this multiple times now as we've gone back and forth from the Andes and the U.S. quite a bit.

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  6. I LOVE Aerie undies! Cheap, cute, and comfortable! https://www.ae.com/aerie-undies/aerie/s-cat/6460002?cm=sUS-cUSD&navdetail=mega:cat6610030:c3:p1

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    1. so, so cute! thanks for this! I admit, I've loved wearing colors and patterns again. :)

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    2. OK, I just had a chance to dig around even more on this site and wow - this is underwear mecca!! They have so many! And they're CUTE. (Danny thinks so, too. ;) So thank you.

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    3. I was about to post about these!

      https://www.ae.com/undies-aerie-vintage-lace-bikini-olive-dust/aerie/s-prod/5774_5648_363?cm=sUS-cUSD&catId=cat6550026

      So many cute colors, no visible panty line, super comfortable and really flattering. And on sale right now, 7 for $27.50.

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  7. Hahaha your underwear blurb made me laugh out loud. Mormons are so weird! I love em....but the underwear thing is so funny to me. Congrats on your underwear freedom!! :) (I hope that's not offensive, I don't mean it to be.)

    When are you guys moving back? Are you going back to nyc?

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    1. Yesss- the underwear thing is very unique, for sure. And, this change for me actually does feel celebratory. It's all a part of reclaiming my own spiritual/moral life and doing things because I resonate with it and not because I have to. Of course what that looks like for me has evolved over the years. Also: wearing underwear again is FUN!!!! And feels sexy and feminine and beautiful and natural. I love seeing my body again when I get ready for bed. I mean, it's been about 14 years I think!

      And yes, we're moving back to New York! The date is still slightly up in the air, but likely at the end of the year.

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  8. Okay, I am so confused by the underwear thing! I thought Mormon garments went OVER regular underwear? And I didn't realize you have to wear the garments to bed as well. Interesting!

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    1. So...actually the tradition is to wear the religious garment in place of the underwear bottoms. I haven't heard of anyone that wears the underwear and the garment both. Though maybe some people do. Bras, on the other hand, were always worn over the garment as far as I knew. But fairly recently, I heard a matron in the temple tell me that no, no...you can wear the bra under or over the garment, whatever you'd like. That was news to me and many others!

      And yes - most people would wear the garments to bed...and really most all of the time. Of course some may only wear them part of the time, but the instruction is to wear them always (unless during sports, swimming, etc.)

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    2. This is fascinating to me!

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  9. Also, where is the pink coat from?

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    1. ahhh....this pink coat. It's a favorite of mine. I had a really sweet gig once at an old job. The CEO's wife was my exact size and often recycled her clothes. She was SOOO lovely and so beyond generous and gave me so many clothes over the years. I just loved her style, as well. She was European and always wore the most chic, well made clothes.

      I wish I could tell you the brand on it, but I recently left this coat in storage in the states after our recent trip there. Each time we go to the states, I take more and more items to leave in storage so that our luggage won't be too bad once we actually move. This last time we dropped off books, some coats, clothes, and my riding boots. Anything to reduce! At this point, I have quite a sparce closet here. Our next trip we'll be taking back blankets, kitchen items, etc.

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    2. Bummer! Thanks anyway!

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  10. We've discussed this at length already, but I just wanted to chime in on the whole pizza is the thing you miss the most comment because YES IT IS! I can't imagine a world where I don't miss it. It's just that good. Honestly!

    And SO SO SO HAPPY that you are doing one last retreat in Ecuador! I was so hoping that you would, and will absolutely be there. xoxo

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    1. YES! PIZZA! You know that pain. :)

      And I'm still beaming at the thought of you coming in Oct. XOXO

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  11. Totally agree with you on the jury thing. There are many great articles about this subject from people in the legal field - who agree with you. You had some really intelligent things to say about it and the inherent issues/problems with juries. Anyway . . . you can always start the adoption process from where you are - it's a looong process!

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  12. the ever favorite uniqlo has lovely underwear. very reasonably priced, cute colors/patterns and wash so well. i love them!

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    1. thank you! We are huge fans of Uniqlo. :) Though I've never tried their underwear. Lots of new territory here. :)

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  13. Hmmm...I'm not sure I agree about high altitude causing depression. We moved from below sea level to a mountain town in Mexico. We now live at 6900 feet very happily! It's not just us, the town is known for its joyful, active residents. I don't think it's just us either...We can't of course know what's going on in people's minds, but the happy laughter of many on the streets seem to suggest that here at least the altitude isn't causing depression.

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    1. hi Paige! Just saw I never responded to this. From what I've read, the researchers are saying that only some people would be affected negatively by high altitudes. Of course who knows. Though I still do wonder about it (in my case) as I do feel more energized in the states (though it could also be other factors). And, I'm so glad you guys are happy and well at 6,900 feet! I actually did not realize prior that Mexico, too, had such high altitudes! Even Mexico City! I'm shocked I never knew that. Also, how lovely that there is so much happiness in the streets! Ecuadorians (in general) seem a little more reserved and apathetic to me - at least in public - so we don't feel that "happiness/laughter" vibe here as much. Though there is a tribe in the mountains here that does exude that - they are Quichua and they do have a warmth & happiness that is very outward and visible. (Our retreat is in a Quichua area, and it's so lovely to experience their kindness during the retreat.) It's really fascinating to see how different each place is in the world! It also makes me think about what vibe I exude in public - could it be more open, engaging, warm, kind.....

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  14. Have you read the blog "From the waiting room"?

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    1. Hi ! I hadn't heard of this blog, but just checked it out and it's oh so lovely! Thank you for the recommendation!! It is so heart warming to read about stories of adoption. I do, at times, wonder about it (of course) - and blogs like this do speak to me.

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