02 October 2015

Do You Ever Wonder This? (Regarding Intimacy)

How many of you have wondered dark in the night - 

Am I enough? Am I enough to be desired? Does my lover feel connected with me enough? Do I offer enough vulnerability and connection in return that is strong enough to sustain a relationship, love, loyalty, fidelity, desire? 

If these questions have ever entered your mind, I have a trick for how to ease your worries...

Stop wondering if you're enough and simply ACT like you are enough. 

No more pity party. :)

No more victimhood.

No more stewing in fear.

No more worrying about the worst case scenario (because you'd be enough then, too.)

Acting like you are "enough" will change you. Yes, it may feel like acting in the beginning. But if you put your focus in the new direction - guess what? Your energy is actually no longer going towards all the thoughts that don't serve you! You're not spending time on feeding those fears and they can actually lose their power over you! They are, after all, just thoughts. Instead, you're putting your focus towards allowing your body and mind to practice what it feels like to be secure, content, fearless, worthy, confident, lovable.

It's all a matter of managing your energy. And we're in charge of that.

We truly get to choose where we put our energy.

Love to all,


P.S. On my end - I certainly work on this, too. I've mentioned before that I'm working on the idea that I am enough to earn a living helping people to live with a love mindset. Pulling that off would be a dream to me. :) But earning a living will take more than just writing blog posts. So I'm trying to believe - and act - more and more like I am enough to continue making this happen. And writing that didn't feel vulnerable one bit. ;) haha. 

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  1. Love this post! I think the 'enough' theory can work in all aspects of life. Shopaholics need to learn that they have 'enough' clothes. and whats really necessary in life. We are always working towards making 'enough' money to support our families. There never seems to be 'enough' time in everyday. But if we truly embrace what we have and acknowledge what the 'enough' is... its mind blowing! Thank you for this Mara.

    1. Hello!!! I love getting your comments. :) And yes, as I wrote this I thought the same thing - that it applies to pretty much all of life. The intimacy idea is why I thought of it. But it really works for so many things.

  2. I loved this! Having been through a divorce this has been the most frustrating part I've felt like I've had to deal with, not feeling like "enough." Love this advice.

  3. Oh yes! I just taught my very first yoga class (for money) this morning, and I was channeling this sort of sentiment as much as I could! Voices said, "Who am *I* to *teach*?!" I kept telling myself, "Just be yourself, offer yourself to them--that's all you have to do." It worked out just lovely; it didn't hurt that the studio community is the sweetest!

  4. Love everything about this post, but especially this part -- "No more worrying about the worst case scenario (because you'd be enough then, too.)" I think sometimes I can get so caught up in worrying about the "worst case scenario" and lose sight of the fact that even in the worst case scenario, who you are will still be enough. That's such an important message!

  5. Definitely needed this reminder today! Thank you!

  6. Oh, if I could just not worry about the worst case scenario. I think that is the hardest part about being divorced. But I am working on it.

  7. Mara (and Danny) your words are such a treasure!!! Thank you!

  8. oooo....this is so good. Speaks right to my heart!


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