After my divorce, I couldn't wait to get married again.
I knew I didn't need to be with someone to have a good life and I was doing all I could to stay out of that mindset. (I had already decided that I was going to be at peace and live a good life with or without a husband). But here's the thing: I knew that I had grown SO, SO much because of my first marriage that I did want the opportunity to experience it again. Even though my first marriage didn't work out, the learning experience was still one of the greatest of my life, and I'd do it all over again. I guess that's how much I value the progress that can happen when two people are married (I am sure it's similar as a parent). It is one good setting for learning about some hard core stuff about LIFE & LOVE. It was one good setting for practicing my truest identity (even when my first marriage didn't work out.)
See these posts: The Most Important Things I've Ever Learned About Love.
Did you or do you have any fears about getting married? I've met many people since starting this blog that have a huge fear that their marriage won't work out.
I say, prepare yourself as best you can and make the best decisions you can, but if your worst fear comes true and your marriage doesn't go as you planned, let it be a teacher. Let it be an opportunity to grow and learn and become a better person. And for the moment -
Married or single, make it your highest goal to be the kind of person you want to be and practice your truest identity, regardless of the status of a marriage.
Ironically this will allow you to do your part in creating the kind of environment in which a successful marriage or relationship would be possible.
Photo taken after our Boston wedding by the INCREDIBLE photographer, Rachel Thurston (also an incredible human being, business owner, and mom.)
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