Dear Valentine’s Day

 (Photos taken on Valentine’s Day in Beacon, NY 
during a surprise trip to the stunning modern museum, Dia:Beacon.)

Valentine’s Day is for lovers.

And loving.
And friendships.
And delightful surprises.
And it ALL requires the most beautiful acts of vulnerability.
Oh, to love is to be vulnerable! 

Eeks! Putting yourself out there can be SCARY at times – but it’s also the best! It leads to the best connections in life. 
Yay for Valentine’s Day for encouraging us all to make it happen.
On this day, may we celebrate being vulnerable with each other!! 
May we have the courage to do something kind. May we take a risk. May we bare our soul in some way. May we feel dumb if need be. May we love fully and unabashedly. And may this just be practice for some greater love throughout the year.
(See many posts on vulnerability here for some pep talks!)
Here’s what I want to do to be more vulnerable this year…

I want to dance like this more. It doesn’t happen as often as I’d like. You know, some mumbo jumbo about the stresses of life creeping in. (And yes, I feel like a vulnerable dork posting this. But it was filmed on a Valentine’s Day with Danny. And it’s what love looks like. And it just seemed to fit this post.)

What do you guys need to work on to be more vulnerable this year? Do share! Let’s all make it happen. Practice this weekend. More love all around.

P.S. We’ll be hustling all week during the retreat. But tonight we got to sit in this wood fired hot tub perched above some stunning, green Andean views. It was incredible. While chatting, Danny mentioned that the two of us began because we bore our souls in those love letters we wrote each other. And now we do the same now in the “letters” we write for all of you on this blog. Vulnerability has been very good to us.

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  1. Fatimah February 13, 2015 at 3:40 pm - Reply

    Ha! I love this. heheee Cheers to dorking it up at home and in public and being way way too happy to care what anyone thinks.

    My vulnerability homework for the year is to go with my gut, be fully me, comfy in my skin, feel any passing doubts, nerves, anxiety or fear and take HUGE giant leaps of faith anyway.

    This is my first single valentine's in a half a decade and yet it has been so full of laughs and love and just deep to the core happy. Thanks for adding your smiley faces to the mix. :o)

  2. Miggy February 13, 2015 at 3:57 pm - Reply

    So my husband and I went out last night for an early Valentine's dinner. It was a nicer restaurant and not long after we were seated a live band started playing. Sort of a funk, cover band. They kept inviting people onto the dance floor, but no takers. After we finished we went over and started dancing and soon 4 or 5 other couples followed. It was so fun! We used to love going dancing when we were dating (like Provo party style, not clubbing) and we missed it so much. And while we do plenty of dancing around the house, it's different to actually go out dancing in public. It was the best part of our evening. Well…almost. 😉

  3. Anna February 13, 2015 at 5:11 pm - Reply

    Oh this made me smile. xoxox

  4. Miss Gypsy February 14, 2015 at 4:49 pm - Reply

    I think I have to work more in my self-esteem. When you don't feel good about yourself somehow you end up creating a wall between you and the World, and that doesn't exactly show your vulnerability… I think. 🙂

    xo Nour

  5. Anonymous February 19, 2015 at 11:34 pm - Reply

    This is almost maybe my favorite post that you have written. That video shows the comfortability you have with each other. Some times when i read your posts, things sound forced. Sometimes, the way I read it sounds like force yourself to love each other or to be kind. I'm sure you do and I'm sure you don't. I get that. However, to see you being THIS comfortable with each other… i don't see that in the posts. Mainly because in the posts you don't talk about specifics of HOW you got through a disagreement, HOW you overcame aggravation. I realize why you wouldn't talk about those things, but sometimes it's hard to see HOW when i don't read that part, I just read that you did it. I get why that is and that you don't or can't write about what disagreements you had or how you prevented one, or how you deal with specific insecurities or things that maybe hurt each other, or how you felt when one of you was doing bad. However, sometimes I wonder how that actually looks for you guys. I'm sure NONE of this makes sense. However, all that to say, this video gave me a glimpse of the actual love and freedom you have with each other and that was very inspiring and telling. Thank you.

  6. Anonymous February 19, 2015 at 11:34 pm - Reply

    Ya'll should do B School!!! It seems like ya'll would be perfect for it! I'm just looking into it mysel and all I can think about is ya'll!


  7. Anonymous February 20, 2015 at 5:24 pm - Reply

    I am fall in love with someone but we haven't spoken yet. We speak with eyes. I am dying when these eyes look at me with this amazing smile and I am sure that he is in love with me. I am still waiting to speak to each other.

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