TWO Sets of Twins.
Two Boys and a Girl.
5 Kids and One on the Way...
For all of you who would like children and cannot have them, how does it feel on a daily basis as you see all your friends' growing families? Or your younger siblings' growing family? Or your baby cousins' brood? We're talking about Facebook here. And the family newsletters. And baby announcements. And bloggers who add children right and left as you follow their lives.
Isn't it nuts sometimes? It seems families all around are just growing, growing, growing. Some at a smaller pace. Some at a quicker pace. And yet - on your (our) end...nothing. Not even once. Not even a false alarm. I know there are MANY out there who cannot have kids, but it is so easy to feel like you are the only one.
Today I share with you my tactics for being at peace with my life. I think this is powerful whether you are infertile or are a mother of 5.
-I just think to myself that we ALL have a unique life. I try not to envy someone else's life. And I constantly think of all the people that would envy mine. At the very least, I can walk and talk and breathe normally. There is a lot to be grateful for there. It snaps me into a state of gratitude.
-I remind myself that it is never, ever what we HAVE, it is what we DO with our lives and how we RESPOND to life that matters the most! While motherhood is a gift to many, it is a nightmare to others. While family life can be a joy, many families are a dysfunctional mess. So clearly, we can't expect children to solve all our problems.
-I remind myself to try and make the BEST of the life I am living right now. I know that if I couldn't do that, I'd probably make a mess of the life I imagined I'd have, even if it was given to me.
I don't know how I got so lucky to learn this stuff. It transformed my life.
That's all for today. :)
With Love, Mara
Do you have trouble envying the lives of others'? Any tactics that you have come to use successfully ?
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