To Mothers and Mothers in the Making

Dear Mothers – and those who seek to become a Mother someday,

I hope you had the loveliest day.

I thought I’d share with you the most important thing I ever learned about motherhood…

It is to remember to mother yourself; nurture yourself; take care of your health and your body; show respect to yourself. All of these things are actually an act of love for those you nurture. If you can’t mother and honor yourself, it is very difficult to mother another.

In my twenties, I did things that didn’t show the best respect to myself. I actually wanted a relationship with someone who didn’t fully respect me and treat me well – and I even married him. I didn’t care for my body in the best way (too much sugar, not enough healthy food-I thought I could get away with it), I worked way, way too much. I depleted my energies and health in loads of ways. I had to learn (from scratch) how to better honor myself, respect myself, and essentially mother myself. It was the best thing I ever did. It changed my life. I began to respect my body with whole foods, I worked less, I learned how to react to little things in a better way so I could conserve my energy. I became someone who could be a better mother, if the opportunity came. And it has led to the best life I could imagine.

May we all be inspired this year to be mothers to ourselves. It is always a work in progress. But it is truly the formula for being a better mother to others.

Have you had any successes lately in caring for yourself or showing more respect/love/honor for yourself? In what ways do you pull it off? 

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  1. Sally Scott May 12, 2014 at 11:21 am - Reply

    This post reminds me of something I read on Joanna Goddard's blog, I think it was something her mother said to her: "Take gentle loving care of yourself" I love it and try to follow that advice!

  2. Michelle May 12, 2014 at 12:49 pm - Reply

    beautifully said, mara!

  3. Joyce May 12, 2014 at 1:03 pm - Reply

    Dear Mara, thank you! Thank you so much!

  4. Birdie in DC May 12, 2014 at 1:09 pm - Reply

    I love this so much. And needed the reminder.

  5. Anonymous May 12, 2014 at 2:06 pm - Reply

    Thanks Mara. Mother's Day was tough for me – third year of trying to have a baby, but it was the first year I've actually allowed myself to become emotional about it. I actually saw your spiritual healer about a year ago – it did not work out for me – I think I was not ready to let her in. But I do remember she told me that I needed mothering (nurturing). Since then, I've not been so great to myself still – I was healthy for a while, then fell off the wagon and have been lost, not knowing where to find solace. I've been lashing out at my husband, and really not liking myself. I recently stumbled upon your blog, and it's been really helpful. I just wanted to let you know – thank you very much, and I wish you much happiness.

  6. Masques May 13, 2014 at 3:43 am - Reply

    this is the most beautiful blog. i love all post in this blog. thanks

  7. May 13, 2014 at 3:55 am - Reply

    I love this idea and how you put it so beautifully! In my Mother's Day post I included a link to Alanis Morissette's Receive, such an important message for us to remember to receive the care and love we so deserve as we all mother in our own ways. Justine

  8. ara May 21, 2014 at 9:51 pm - Reply

    Dear Mara… I have been reading you for a month before writing this message . Congratulations, you're so tender and protective. It's so lovely coming to your blog and find serenity and peace . Thank you. Regards from Italy

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