01 May 2014
The Most Common Infertility Question in Ecuador
As we're down here in Ecuador getting settled and meeting new friends, Ecuadorians are often curious about what led us to decide to come to their beautiful country. They invariably ask us what we'll be working on here and if we have any children. When we explain that we don't have any children and why - they almost always ask a question immediately after, in regards to infertility. It's a a question that I'm not sure we have ever been asked once in the U.S.
They point to each of us and ask,"Which one?"
As in, which one can't have children?
They do so without reservation.
After we tell them (somewhat awkwardly), they almost always then look at Danny with a little smile of relief. oh my. haha.
It doesn't matter whether it is a taxi driver, the woman at the fruit and vegetable stand, your neighbor, or a man or woman at a convenience store. It doesn't matter if it's a local artist you just met, or stranger you're sitting next to on a bus, or the owner of the restaurant where you're eating lunch. It is almost always the follow up question.
We thought it was a little weird the first time it happened. And then it happened the next day, too. And the day after that. At this point, we definitely anticipate the question anytime we are meeting someone new. We then replay the conversation later and chuckle. Though I think their questioning is just due to their emphasis on family here.
Are there any questions that have caught you off guard when you've moved to a new city, town, or country? It seems each place has their own cultural norms, values, etc. In New York, the first questions you get asked might be about your career or what neighborhood you're in. In Boston it seems there is a lot of talk about education. And obviously in Washington D.C., it seems conversations have a lot to do with politics. Any other insights? What do people usually talk about in areas that you are familiar with?