I don’t even know where to begin…. !
SO much has happened since I last wrote.
Remember how I said that – regardless of whether or not I got pregnant – it was going to be the start of a new life for us?
Well, I wasn’t kidding! Though at the time, we didn’t quite yet know exactly what it was going to look like. But in the last few weeks since our failed IVF, we’ve been working on figuring a few things out. It hasn’t been all rainbows. I mean, we’ve had to think about completely re-inventing our lives, which has actually been a very, very difficult, complicated thing to do. I hope to write more about this as it’s been quite an experience (and continues to be). But it’s one of those times when we’ve have to completely surrender to a life that is nothing at all like what we had planned on. Yes, we’ve been applying every bit of the truths that we have written about here on the blog. They have, once again, proven to be life changing. Good things have been happening in our hearts and souls. To me, it is one of the greatest miracles of my life.
For now, I’ll get you up to date on some HUGE, HUGE things that have happened in our lives (I still can hardly wrap my head around it all.):
-The very next work day after our IVF didn’t work out, Danny gave his 2 weeks notice and quit his job. We had been discussing this for months and determined that if the IVF was unsuccessful, we would most likely make some big changes. And because I wasn’t pregnant and we weren’t planning any more treatments, we had so much more flexibility. Most people our age are very concerned about schools, insurance, security, having a home, having a job, having a car, possibly living near grandparents, etc.-all to accommodate a current or future family. Since we always planned on kids, we were very concerned about those things, too. But since kids are not currently in the picture and we also don’t have to be in one spot for infertility treatments (which has been my life for the last 10 years), well…it changes things – a LOT.
–Now, because our income was going to be significantly reduced, we knew that it would be smart to leave New York for the time being. 🙁 Did I just write LEAVE NEW YORK?!?!? Oh, man. I can’t even tell you how much trauma I’ve been through just thinking about leaving my beloved home of Brooklyn. 14 years of my life have been rooted in this amazing city. Living in New York has changed my life in every way imaginable. I feel as though I’ve grown up here. My life transformed here. I learned about life here…and love. My very best friends in the world are here (or from here). I really, really could stay here for the rest of my life. So the idea of leaving has been a hugely complicated thing for me to process (all while processing the idea of not having children. Oh my. Yes, it has been an interesting few weeks to say the least. 🙂
-So, we’ve been trying to figure out where to live. For awhile, we considered selling our apartment and moving somewhere in the States, but nothing was pulling us in. Nothing felt right. It was hard to get excited about moving. We had been thinking of all of this for months, actually, and we really were at a loss about what we should do. But, the idea of moving abroad kept coming to our minds. So we began doing some research. We decided to go some place where the cost of living is low so that we could afford to step out of the rat race for awhile and just LIVE, serve, rejuvenate and work on projects that are meaningful to us. We considered moving to many countries (and if you have any suggestions, please, please please let us know as anything is still possible!!!!!) But one country kept coming up in our research as one of the best places in the world to retire…Ecuador. The cost of living is like living in the 1950s. Think rents under $500. Home purchases are $50k-$150k. 15-20 bananas for $1. The bus is 25 cents. Cabs anywhere are $1. You can stay in many hotels for $18/night. A Dr. visit is $10-$20 total. A root canal by a very good dentist is $100-$150 total. We’re planning to rent out our apartment in Brooklyn, which will cover our costs of living in Ecuador. Also, the infrastructure in Ecuador is mostly very, very good, considering. Health care is known for being very high quality (many expats say they get better care there than in the States), transportation is good, crime is low (aside from pick pockets and thieves, similar to Europe or any big city), and the country is stable enough that people are very, very happy living here.
-And so, we decided to visit Ecuador for 1 month to check it out. In fact, we are here right now! When we checked on airfare, the prices were so good that we up and left within 5 days. We’ve been here for about a week now and so far, our experience has been amazing. We are loving it here. We have a lot to still see and experience, but we are currently really, really excited about the prospect of living here. We are considering the areas of Cuenca, Cotacachi, Otavalo, and Vilcabamba. We’re trying to keep up with sharing some details and photos on Twitter…we invite you to follow us there if you’d like!
1- We’re currently in the town of Cotacachi. All the sidewalks look like this.
2- An early morning view of Cotacachi, before all the merchants are open.
3- A view of a crater in the Andes Mountains, near Quito. This gives you an idea of how green the Andes are.
4- We had to quickly order some books before our trip.
5- The downtown streets of Cotacachi look a lot like this.
Now, have you ever been to Ecuador? Do you know anyone who has lived here? We would so love to hear ANY and all details you might have. (Also, we are so open to suggestions if you know of another country we should consider, though for now we’re particularly interested in countries with a low cost of living.)