Things Said in Our IVF Household Lately…

“How is my drug-laced wife?”

“Get in here and let me shoot you up.”

“I am so sorry to do this to you.”

(It’s a bit hard on Danny to stick me with multiple needles every day.  He is SO good at it and I am SOOO grateful every day for him.  But he hates doing it as it gives me bruises.)

“You’re doing so great, love.”

“How about you take some extra deep breaths.    …Are you ready?”

(When giving me the injections, Danny kneels at my tummy and waits ’til he can tell I’m mentally ready.  He watches my breathing and at the right time, according to my breaths, he will say, “Take a breath” right before the shot.  It’s so, so loving every time.  I wrote more about it here.)

“Oh God, bless this medicine, that it might …”

(Danny decided this time to say a prayer over the medication – that it will do it’s job and help to create a child.  I know that might sound strange, but it’s the most beautiful and calming thing for me to hear him pray.)

“Why don’t you just go sit down and relax while I prepare the next round.”

(Danny continues to handle all of the medication duties, which is so kind and wonderful.  I just take the meds, but he prepares them, warms them, mixes them, stores them, reads directions, measures, figures out the correct needles, warms my heat pack, even swabs my skin with alcohol, and does whatever is needed.  I don’t even have to look at the long needles.  Oh, I love that man.)

“This feels soooo good.”  “I’m in heaven.”  “Me, too.”

(Last night, Danny had me in one of his best cuddle holds on the couch.  It was amazing.)

“You are on BLOGGER?!?!?”  🙂

(Ha! He was so shocked when I recently opened this up.  I think he missed the blog, but he never mentioned it and was so supportive of my need to stop for awhile.)


I love my husband so much.  These last many weeks, I have just been consumed with love and gratitude and awe because of him.  He is a true partner in every way.  That man offers the highest kind of love and it’s the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen.


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  1. marlene October 25, 2013 at 12:37 pm - Reply

    Wonderful acts of loving and caring 🙂

    Just a thought I had – have you and Danny ever thought about writing to each other again? It's weird isn't it (and wonderful) how writing conveys a thoughtfulness and intimacy that no other form of communication can. Because your relationship was built initially on writing and sharing, I was just wondering if you've ever tried writing to each other now just to see how it feels to go back to that form of communication.

    Relax and keep the hope Mara!

  2. Anonymous October 25, 2013 at 2:23 pm - Reply

    I wish and pray that I can find love, like the kind you two have for each other, with a partner.

  3. Anonymous October 25, 2013 at 2:34 pm - Reply

    I just wanted to send some love and prayers your way. God has the perfect plan for you both regardless of what things may seem through our human eyes and understanding. Keep the faith and rest in that…

    And just so you know, if I may say so, I think you both will be amazing parents. xo

  4. Anonymous October 25, 2013 at 6:06 pm - Reply

    Good luck! I'm glad you didn't give up. Wishing you morning sickness and growing pains since that's a good thing! 🙂

  5. Lauren October 25, 2013 at 7:55 pm - Reply

    Mara, I just finished reading an amazing book and thought of you the whole time! You should really read "Instant Mom" by Nia Vardalos- I think that anyone who has found becoming a parent difficult can really relate to it and it is just such an honest and hopeful read.

  6. Cindy October 25, 2013 at 11:42 pm - Reply

    Reading about your IVF made me think back to ours, almost 14 years ago. We were so blessed and freaked out when our uber successful IVF resulted in triplets. They turned 13 a few months ago and are the light of our lives, and with all my heart I would wish Heavenly Father's plan makes you similarly happy. (Though not quite as tired.)

    What I was really thinking about, though, was how we would tell people about the whole process. After describing the egg retrieval I would say "And then [my husband] made his contribution…" It always gave me a chuckle… 😉

  7. Kulwant October 26, 2013 at 11:59 am - Reply

    Hope it all turns out great. IVF is a remarkable technology which has helped millions of people and it is the result of science and technological development.

  8. Carry My Style October 26, 2013 at 9:27 pm - Reply

    Good luck with the IVF.
    And fun comments, you listed:) I have just found your blog and it seems so inspiring to follow your blog:)
    All the best from a Danish girl living in Turkey.

  9. Stephanie October 27, 2013 at 4:02 am - Reply

    Thinking of you, Mara! I sure love you and pray that your body is able to make it through all of this– you are amazing. I only wish I still lived seconds away and could bring over dinner and a big hug. You are strong and beautiful in every way and I miss you dearly!

  10. Anonymous October 27, 2013 at 4:33 am - Reply

    Hi Mara! Could you explain what you mean by adoption wasn't an option for you guys right now? How would that not be an option? I'm just wondering for the rest of us who are passionate about adoption and some who are wondering about it. You were kind of vague about how its not an option and I was just wondering if you could explain any more. If not, it's ok. 🙂 I was just wondering. 🙂

  11. About Me October 27, 2013 at 10:08 pm - Reply

    The moral support is the best – and how awesome that he's handling the medications! We're in the midst of the process too – day 8 of stimulation, but I'm not sure how I feel about the Mr. with needles 🙂

  12. Shea October 28, 2013 at 11:20 pm - Reply

    I'm sending lots of love and good thoughts your way. I'm so glad you are blogging again and I'm thankful for your blog and your willingness to share your journey.

  13. Conie November 7, 2013 at 8:01 pm - Reply

    Good luck!!:)

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