But as we anticipate what is to come, I have been thinking of a few goals I have with this next cycle...
1. Be as kind and friendly as can be to the nurses. I am guessing they have hard jobs. I know moodiness and stress are rampant among most IVF patients. And I'm guessing that kind of energy takes a toll on the nurses and staff. And so, if I can, I want to try and be kind and patient with them. Somehow, the goal of doing this gives me a little bit of purpose as I go to and from all the appointments, which are about a 4 to 5 hour round-trip to and from Long Island. And yes, any bit of purpose I can have is welcome. :)
2. Be on my A-game with reacting well to other areas that could be stressful. To me, it's ALL in the reactions. If I'm not reacting well, energy just gets depleted, and there is nothing left for the riggers of IVF or anything else that might come along. And so, I work on reacting well to my side view mirror that just got nailed by a hit and run driver. Or my fairly new desktop computer screen that just got shattered due to a falling poster frame that made the computer topple over. And coming up we have three speaking engagements during the IVF cycle and also some big, big decisions to figure out. So, it's on. I'm working on reacting well to life. Doing this deliberately is the best thing I've ever done for myself. And if I didn't do this regularly, for sure the experience of IVF would be a mess.
3. GRATITUDE, GRATITUDE, GRATITUDE. FOR SOOOO MUCH!!!! There is loads to be grateful for. I think it's safe to say we all could find so much to be grateful for. I want to align with gratitude as deliberately as possible over the next few weeks.
4. Go on walks. I remember with the last IVF, I realized I should walk and walk as much as I could on days that I was able to. Because on some days, walking was not an option.
5. Take. My. Vitamins. I can't tell you how much I now dislike swallowing handfuls of fish oil and antioxidants and prenatals. Honestly, it gets old after nearly a decade now. I have to force myself to do it. Any ideas for how to make that experience more pleasant?
6. And, once again, "ENJOY THE PROCESS." :)
I've done it before. I know it can be done. Enjoy, Enjoy, Enjoy. :) It's still my mantra and it helps a TON.
Do you guys ever set goals for yourselves in advance of an IVF or ANY possibly difficult upcoming experience? Let's say a pregnancy, a school year, a tense family gathering, PMS, a stressful week, a medical procedure, a blind date, a social gathering, a move, etc. Does it help?
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