I had bad PMS when I was in my first marriage. That went on for years. I remember making the realization that at one point I wasn’t in a good mood about 2 wks out of the month. (That is 50% of my life. 5 solid years out of ten, etc.) Scary to think of it that way. PMS
used to be a time for me when any underlying thing just came to the
surface. If there was some pain in my life, it was like I couldn’t
ignore it or cover it up during that time. It
was like I
couldn’t control it. And, oh dear, there were lots and lots of those
pains and hurt feelings – layers of them. Both
because of what I was faced with, but also because I didn’t know a dang
thing about what I now talk about on the blog – (i.e. choosing happiness by pursuing virtues regardless of the circumstance, watching my own reactions, owning my own self worth, etc.)
The last year of my marriage is when I got really desperate and
decided that I really, really wanted to figure out how to heal from all
I had been through. At the suggestion of my acupuncturist/spiritual
healer – I also started to take better care of myself
physically as the first priority. My spiritual healer would explain it like this:
“To have a rich and abundant life, you have to nourish yourself. You need healthy soil in order for a life to take root.” In other words, if your physical body is being abused over and over with sugar addiction, caffeine addiction, toxic foods, an overload of carbs and processed foods, lack of food or constant overdose of food, and lack of sleep/exercise/sunshine, then your mind and spirit will have a really hard time operating optimally. The idea of “managing your energy” might feel like a hopeless cause as every bit of energy that you do have will just be going towards mere survival on a physical level and nothing more.
So I took my mentor’s suggestion very, very seriously and began to REALLY begin to care for myself physically. This was SO KEY to my spiritual/emotional healing, I cannot even tell you. I think caring for my physical
well-being helped me to have the hormonal balance, mental strength, and
energy to begin to then heal emotionally. It was also the first time I ever felt like I actually was a spiritual person (that was so shocking to me, let me tell you!) That was the most empowering time
of my life because I really did begin to feel healed inside for the
first time. I thought that might never be possible. Do you know what a big deal that is to feel healed? It truly is a miracle. (I think that’s why I feel so passionate about writing this blog – I want you all to feel that!) It was then that I had a feeling of
self-worth for probably the first time in my life. I also had the
strength to begin to love a fellow human being who was not in a good
place in his life and who was not treating me well. I had the strength
to begin to forgive and to no longer have expectations of him – but to just free
myself from being hurt by his behavior. I even had the energy and desire and ability to reach out of my immediate circumstances (my crumbling marriage) and serve other people. I guess ultimately I
had the strength to surrender my “natural” self (ego) and tap into a higher
part of me that I didn’t even know existed. This stuff is HUGE. And the beginning of it all was nourishing my physical body.
Our dear readers, I want to just pour my heart and soul out on this one…and suggest that if you really, really do want to change your life and heal, caring for your physical body really is the #1 starting point. I feel badly that I haven’t written more about this when I’ve known all along how important it is to succeeding at a lot of the things we talk about on this blog. But it’s not too late to share. So I’m going to share a few posts about what I did to heal physically. Stay tuned.
And, as you think about your own life, have you had experiences that made it clear how linked our physical wellness & nourishment are to the abilities of our mind, soul & spirit? Or any other thoughts about this subject? I would so love to hear. I think this topic could be one of the most important ones we ever address and I hope I can do it justice. I really hope to hear of your insights, knowledge, questions and experiences…as together maybe we can have some powerful information here on this corner of the web. And maybe some lives can be changed. I know it can happen.
Love to all – I mean, seriously. We really do have love and respect for you.
(Last spring I took this photo around the corner from our home. Isn’t nature such a beautiful example of what can happen with healthy soil and nourishment?)