A Nice Bed Time Routine

A little recommendation for a very fun evening with your spouse…(worth a reminder in this busy world 🙂

1.  Get off the computer.

2.  Go put on something sexy (or nothing at all.  Or um, your husband’s shirt. 🙂

3.  Go ask your spouse if they’d like to get ready for bed.  

Good things are bound to happen.   🙂

Good night!

P.S.  Danny swears the J.Crew shirts are the softest.  This was his last shirt and I have to agree, it’s so dang soft.  (isn’t it the best touching a guy wearing a soft shirt?!?  I love it.)

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  1. Alldridges February 28, 2013 at 7:18 pm - Reply

    Haha!:) Thank you for the reminder!:) I wonder though, do you think you could reach more people if you spoke about intimacy a lil more subtly? Does that make sense? You are very open about it and it doesn't bother me, but I think it may bother some. For example, especially those from earlier generations… my mother would never read your blog as she would feel talking about those things are inappropriate haha :). I do not wish to offend. I just love the things you and Danny are sharing about how to love unconditionally and communicate. I LOVE it. I would just hate to see people miss out on the opportunity to learn those important truths because they felt uncomfortable. I have lots of friends at church and lots of family that I would love to share your blog with (because we can all benefit from the awesome things you are spreading to the world!) but I do find myself hesitating because I don't want them to think I referred them to a blog about sex haha!! Anyway, I don't know if that makes any sense… and hey it your blog! You share whatever your heart desires! The thought just kept coming to me and so I thought I would share. Thanks for all you do! Have a GREAT day!

  2. mara February 28, 2013 at 7:43 pm - Reply

    Thanks so much for the note. I feel I do speak about it subtly (ha!) – and I always try to be tasteful. But that's just me. I understand completely that everyone has a different level of comfort with the subject. I think that's why I write about it. I have just seen way, WAY too many women that are terribly uncomfortable with sex. I know women – married with children-who aren't even able to say the word "sex". I guess if I can open the dialogue even in a small way here on this blog – and speak about sex in marriage as something that is healthy, happy, fun, & normal – that maybe it could help someone out there who struggles to see it that way. Also, I fear that if many adults are so uncomfortable with the topic – and can't even speak about it openly -how on earth can they teach their children in a healthy way? I think too many children get taught about sex in a very uncomfortable way. This has been the case for just about everyone I've ever spoken with on the subject. And I think we can do better.

    Thanks, again, for the note – it's always so great to hear insights. I know I've lost readers before for similar posts. That's ok with me. I likely would not have been able to inspire someone that closed off anyway. If anything, it inspires me to keep writing and to keep doing what I'm doing – trying to help men and women to feel empowered and happy in their lives and marriages.

    Open to any other thoughts from anyone!


    • mara February 28, 2013 at 8:06 pm - Reply

      Also – just wanted to add that there are obviously sooo many publications and sources out there that don't speak of sex in a tasteful, wholesome, healthy, empowering way. I guess I don't mind trying to be an alternative to that from time to time. I figured since it is A Blog About Love – that maybe it could be useful and helpful to people.

    • jessica renae March 1, 2013 at 2:47 am - Reply

      bravo! 🙂 i agree with you completely on this point. i appreciate your tastefulness, subtlety, and contribution. we all have a responsibility to step up and make sure WE are comfortable with sex in a healthy, sacred way so that we can teach our children and others a healthy view of it. so many have been tainted by not having that early in their lives and i appreciate the bit you do to share that sex CAN be a healthy, happy, very normal and enjoyable part of a wonderful marriage. thanks for all you do! 🙂

    • Sage March 3, 2013 at 2:04 am - Reply

      I agree too. We need enough openness to counteract the rottenness that is out there. I was asked to speak on sexual abuse at church (one of the other speakers was a convicted sex offender) and in my research I could only conclude that we have to do better teaching our kids about sex in a sacred and healthy context.

      You aren't really that subtle, but you are tasteful!

  3. Anonymous February 28, 2013 at 7:49 pm - Reply

    Keep going Mara!!!! I have been married for 16 years and find all the wisdom you dispel to be truths that we have used in our marriage and a big part of why we are still so happily together!

    • mara March 1, 2013 at 6:41 pm - Reply

      YAY!!! love to hear it. 🙂

  4. Alldridges February 28, 2013 at 8:43 pm - Reply

    Mara! You have done it again… You are SO right on. Do you know something? I had not even for a second thought about it that way before. And my word. You are right. When I read your response, I cracked up laughing! Because that is a lot of my friends and def my family! When I was younger, I thought sex was so so naughty! HA! My husband and I only have one set of friends where sex is not a taboo subject. We talk all the time that we wish it wasn't that way so that our children won't have a tainted view on sex, as we did. I tend to be a lil more timid though and not as brave to just put it out there :). Let this be a lesson learned :). LIke I said, I am in love with your message and I got so nervous that people would miss it. However, that would be up to them.
    Thank you for responding and putting it in a way that I can better understand. I now see that I perhaps deep down inside me somewhere have a belief that it is not something that should be discussed, as my mother taught me by her example, as her mother taught her by her example. Isn't that funny? So I can't thank you enough for taking the time and using the words that you did to help me (and probably others…) see more clearly. Because I agree with you. We all need a clean, healthy view of sex in our lives because there is so much negative out there! Phew… glad you got that all straightened out for me ;). Those dang beliefs we carry with us from childhood can really stay with us huh?
    Thanks Mara. You guys are changing me. I want you to know that :). I am so grateful!

    • mara March 1, 2013 at 6:41 pm - Reply

      You are a doll. Thanks so much for all your notes on this post. I've loved reading about your concerns, insights, and ideas.

  5. Stacie February 28, 2013 at 11:15 pm - Reply

    Always love reading about your world! So many great ideas to implement

  6. rachel kirk peterson March 1, 2013 at 6:22 pm - Reply

    i love these posts; they are wonderful reminders of what's important in a marriage/relationship!

  7. Sharlee March 2, 2013 at 6:50 am - Reply

    Yeah…I agree Mara. Sex needs to be less tabboo.It needs to be discussed in an open way. I could speak on this topic for hours. I feel unhealthy views of sex cause problems in many other areas. And no offense to the commenter at the beginning but I would NOT refer to this ad a sex blog 🙂 It's discussed in a tactful,classy, and healthy way as one aspect of a healthy marriage/relationship.

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