30 October 2012

My Danny Family During the Hurricane

Sending prayers and thoughts to all those affected by the Hurricane!  Danny and I are safe and sound, but I'm so sad that people are out of their homes or don't have electricity.  I hope people have care and support of loved ones. 

Last night as we awaited the hurricane, we had to move the couch away from the windows cause the wind was SO fierce, loud and scary.  I felt profoundly grateful to not be alone.  Experiencing the hurricane with Danny by my side was one of the greatest blessings ever.  As we crawled in for the night, I just couldn't believe that we had a warm bed and the safety and comfort of each other. 

Have you ever faced a disaster in your area?  Do you remember the emotions you felt?  

It made me think how important it is to have family in our lives; to have loved ones.  I mentioned earlier that after all these years of becoming at peace with my life without kids - I've been facing this unexpected, shocking-to-me-feeling that I don't really "need" kids anymore to be happy and at peace.  I am not desperate for them.  I am now miraculously at peace without them.  And so, on most days leading up to this IVF, I've been struggling a bit with jumping through loads of hoops to get some kids.  But, as I clung to my sweet husband last night as the winds howled outside, I thought about what it might be like without him.  And I thought about what it might be like to have even MORE little Kofoeds in this apartment.  Somehow, Hurricane Sandy made me excited to add more loved ones to this family.  Besides, we could use some more people to help us eat all the food we made during the hurricane.  :)  Kids, you're going to go nuts over these Coconut Flour Chocolate Cupcakes (grain free, dairy free, gluten free) with Paleo Chocolate Frosting.  :)  :)

love,
mara

P.S.  I just saw that my sister-in-law, in Chicago, wrote a post about the hurricane, too.  It's beautiful.  All her posts are.

 (Photo from Elana's Pantry, my go-to food blog every time I bake.)


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Halloween, You're ON!

A friend said that she felt like Halloween already came more than once this week and that she wanted to cancel Halloween.  I can feel her sentiments.  It's been a rough week.  BUT, guess what?  We are going to be celebrating Halloween, rain or shine.  It's because we are going to be watching two of the darlingest darling girls on Halloween.  Their parents (our dear friends) are heading into Manhattan for a C-section that was supposed to take place the day of the hurricane, but got postponed.  So, we'll be with these two sweet girls.  Oh my, I just realized I need to look up Halloween ideas, which I can't ever remember doing...ever in my lifeWeird.  OK, here we go.  I guess some Halloween crafts and activities are in order?!  :)   

And, since we can talk about candy on Halloween, will someone go eat some of this candy for me?  It's the Halloween candy of my dreams (though unfortunately, it contains dairy - which I don't eat.) 

But, it doesn't contain... 

-corn syrup
-partially hydrated oils
-artificial ingredients
-GMOs
-preservatives.  

And..
 
-It's lower on the glycemic index (they use significantly less sugar + they use organic blue agave nectar).  
-Their food dyes are made from vegetables.

Unreal.  Yes, it's called Unreal Candy.  It's probably a good thing that I can't eat this.   :)
 
unreal candy

unreal candy


candy with less sugar




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29 October 2012

Hunkering Down in Brooklyn

It's Sunday evening and we are prepared for the hurricane which is supposed to affect New York on Monday.  Right now the wind is howling and hissing through our windows.  Tomorrow we'll have high winds and maybe even snow!

I am seeing lots of tweets from other bloggers in the city and it makes me think of everyone out there and I hope that everyone is safe during the storm. 

New York emergencies are such memorable events.  Somehow they bring people together.  I've been feeling that this weekend as everyone has been preparing, buying groceries, and checking on friends and neighbors.  In fact, as this Sunday closes, my heart is so full.  The togetherness and the human connection I have been witnessing between people today is just so beautiful.

For example, two women I know rode on bikes to check on some people across town.  One is on a residency rotation and also has a 1 year old and I literally can't believe how she found the time to do this.  But she did.  They went to check on some people in our community to see if they had any needs before the storm.

Another woman asked me if we had enough food on hand in case there was an outage and literally said she'd drop some off at my house if needed.  (We will be fine, but can you believe the generosity?)

And I've seen dozens of people not only thinking of their own families, but reaching out to others to offer some help, if needed.

Truly, it's been heart warming to witness.  

Sending love to all.  And lots of gratitude for some really amazing people in this world.

Mara

P.S.  Brooklynites:  Danny and I are on high grounds in Park Slope.  If anyone gets flooded or needs help, tweet us or email us  - we'd love to help if we can.  

(image from can't wait for christmas)

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26 October 2012

Love Announcements


-This post.  Oh. my. goodness.  We were dying.  It's about our blog.  And two teenagers in Spain.  It had us smiling from ear to ear.   (Hi guys!  We think you're awesome.  And your mom is amazing :)

-Big news for Brooklyn:  81 year-old Patsy Grimaldi and his wife Carol have opened up a pizzeria again (they were the original owners of the famous Grimaldi's, but sold it in 1998.  The entire history is here.)  Their new place is called Juliana's (named after his mother) and it's at 19 Old Fulton Street.  If I were you, I'd go just so you could say you had a pie by THE Patsy Grimaldi.   

-Tom’s Diner in Prospect Heights is one of the coolest places to eat breakfast in Brooklyn.  Just had breakfast there with one of my oldest New York friends.

-Am I really doing IVF?  Oh my - yep, we're going for it quite soon now.  But I can’t wrap my head around it.  That and the possibility of having a baby. 

-The colors in Prospect Park are just stunning right now.  I can hardly take it in on my daily walks, which I’ve been better about doing again.  Let's all make it happen! 

-I just stocked up on my all-time favorite hairspray in the world, Bumble and Bumble Does it All.  (I snagged a couple on E-Bay this time.)  I've tried other hairsprays, but somehow this one does the best with what Danny calls my "Mara hair".  (See all my tips here :)  FYI, I spray this on my damp hair and also use it as a finishing spray once my hair is dry.

Off I go.  It's night time in Brooklyn and it's time to snuggle with Danny.  We've been looooving our window open and lots of covers.  Heaven!

xo,

Mara

(image is from Anthroplogie's Instagram, via Designlovefest)

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25 October 2012

A Love Note to the City by "Humans of New York"


See here this short film, 'The Best of The Humans of New York' with Alicia Keys.  (And you can see where all these photos came from on the amazing blog by Brandon Stanton.

I've been itching to try and document more of my life here.  Seeing his work definitely inspires me to at least take a stab at it.  

And here are my favorites from the recent pics on his blog (there are thousands of pics!)  The best part are his captions...

Love Story: You Are The Best Thing (by Ray LaMontagne)


 (Photos by Justin Hackworth, the man!  Soho, NYC)

New?  You can start up this 'Love Story' here.  :) 

Danny,

How is it possible that what we have now could be even better than the last three weeks?
I am so in love with you that I can hardly stand it.  Oh my, how I want to get in the car and drive to Boston right now!!!!  haha.

Thank you, thank you for continuing to pour your heart and soul out for me.  I can hardly believe it - it's the most beautiful thing I've ever experienced.  You make me feel so loved.  For the record...I am yours.  Completely.  :) :)

It's still amazing to me that any of this is even possible, let alone after just 3 wks, let alone after seeing you in person for just one weekend so far.  I really am blown away...and every moment I just feel so thankful for this miracle.

Do you have plans for the holidays?  I already can't help but think about getting cozy with you over the holidays.  I would love to be with you if it works out....whether it's in boston, ny, slc, az, chicago or tahiti.  

Oh, I can't wait to see you soon...

Mara


Dear Mara,

Yes, honey, I have plans for the holidays and they are with you!  Whatever you're doing, I'm doing, too!  No question!  I just love how cute you are, Mara!

Also, I have found my new favorite song...Ray LaMontange - You are the Best Thing.  You're going to LOVE it!  I promise.  The song is SO GOOD!  (The lyrics are perfect for us.)

I'm just going to bed now, lights are almost off, I've got my back up against my pillow and blanket :) just so I can think about feeling you next to me.  My dear, I am happy too.  Soooo happy and soooo in love.

Danny

This remained our favorite song during our courtship.  And then, we later had the best surprise in the world.  After we got married in Boston, we also had a get together with our dearest friends in Brooklyn.  It was on our rooftop.  And our friends sang for us and played music.  It was one of the most magical nights of my life - and a true Brooklyn reunion of so many long-time friends - and with such an amazing back drop.  But look at what our friends did to this song!!  We just couldn't believe their cool arrangement - the second half just delighted me.  (sorry for the wind that evening - but you'll still get to capture the magic.  :)

23 October 2012

Baggage


One of the hardest things to ever do is let go of any baggage that we feel we might have.  It can be hard to shake those voices in our head that say there is something wrong with us or that there is something in our history to be ashamed of.  We've all had to be face to face with shame.  And anyone who has ever worked through it would probably say it's one of the most empowering things they've ever done.

Here's proof that this is possible.  Read this amazing triumph from a reader and be inspired...
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Recently, as I’ve been learning about emotions, I realized my study was connected with the monumental topic of vulnerability. (Light bulb!)  I was a shy, sensitive child who grew up in an environment where I did not learn to feel emotionally safe.  I finally realized over the last couple of weeks what that feeling is and why I've been closed off both to being vulnerable within myself and vulnerable with other people.

I started looking back at why I have felt so unsafe so much of the time.  All of my usual insecurities came back: will people like me, am I completely unhealthy, do I have what it takes to create healthy relationships, will I pass my baggage onto my children, can I be strong enough, whole enough, likable enough, good enough for...whatever?

Then, in another flash of light, I realized I am not my baggage.  Unsafe and unworthy is baggage I have carried with me, but it is not me.  I began to separate the labels and I looked around at my life with new eyes.  Doing that allowed me to answer those questions, drop my baggage, and step away from it.  I feel whole and empowered.  I know who I am.  I am a daughter of God, with beauty, strength, ability, and value.  I can be the best I can be right now, and that is enough.  In fact, it is better than I thought it was.

-Anonymous
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(photo by Kalle Gustafsson)


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22 October 2012

Love...or Love Addiction?


When I was in my twenties - oh man - I had a very immature view of love.  I was once dating a guy and felt a lot of "love" for him.  But it turns out that we had completely different lifestyles and goals (he was a very good person, but we just weren't even close to being a good match or being on the same desired path).  Deep down, I was actually kind of embarrassed about the relationship because it was SO CLEAR to me and everyone else that we were not a good match, but yet I remained with him for a long time - even with a pit in my stomach.  And why was I with him?  Because he loved me.  He really loved me a lot.  And so I felt "love" for him back.  How could I not?  He showered me with attention, he was thoughtful, affectionate, etc.  Who doesn't love to be loved?  It's very, very easy to love that attention and companionship.  It feels amazing.  Even when your gut says this isn't a good match or you don't fully respect this person's choices in life, the idea of being loved and "being in love" can feel so good that it's like an addiction that you just can't get rid of - you just can't let it go.   You may even hold onto it for dear life.

To my dear readers - are you in a relationship and feeling some agony about it in your gut, yet at the same time feeling like you are "in love" and feeling "love" for this partner?  CONFUSING, right?  Are you in love with someone who actually would not impress you if you stepped back and watched him/her from the sidelines in their lives?  Are you in love with someone, yet in your gut, you have a nagging feeling that this isn't the best decision to be with this person?  If so...

consider the idea that you might be "in love with the idea of being in love."

I hope this makes sense.  And if you think this could be you, know that you certainly are not alone.  I've talked to so many women who have been there.  In fact, we've probably all been there at least once.

Here are two things that I think contribute to this problem...

1.  LOW SELF-WORTH.

2.  SEX.  (yep)

Let me explain... :)

19 October 2012

Love Announcements

 "Look who's a pumpkin now?" says Danny as I head out for an evening with some friends in Brooklyn. 

Today I'm particularly excited about this round up of recommendations....

  • Let's talk tights.  How about a monochromatic or an "almost" monochromatic look?  This dress was red/orange and the tights were bright red.  It got some lookers.  I have a royal blue skirt and I want to get some dark teal tights to wear with it.  And I have a burnt orange skirt and want to get some dark fuschia tights to wear with it.  You get the idea.  We'll see how that goes.  :)  My favorite source for tights?  We Love Colors.  We gave them lots of business during the Harvey Faircloth days (also thanks to this Harvey post on Cup of Jo).  (Also, if you're small, get the kids' size in large and you can save a few bucks.)




  • Check-list for Fall/WinterVITAMIN D!  (Read here for Dr. info. about why this is SOOO important for mental & physical health!) I have actually been low on it for years.  eeks!  My doctor says almost every New Yorker is severely low on it and just about everyone in the country should be taking a supplement during the fall and winter (ask your Dr. for a blood test!)  I take these Vitamin D drops.  My doctor says emulsified Vitamin D is more easily absorbed and therefore more effective.  (More seasonal mental tips here.)

  • Quinoa Pumpkin Pancakes!  (I haven't had pancakes in years.  My Saturday mornings are looking better and better.  Thanks, Rik! :)  Oh - and I'd make these with almond milk & coconut oil instead of butter :)

  • And holy crap, I got asked to speak at Alt Summit in Salt Lake City.  WOW.  Such an honor, especially considering one year ago I was so new to the scene.  I can't believe it.  And I hope to meet some of you there.  I also would love to see more of your blogs!! 
 
Wishing you all lots of good and restful moments this weekend.  Danny and I will be with friends on a foliage outing.  If it rains we'll be at suburbia malls and The Cheesecake Factory (you have no idea how exciting those things are for New Yorkers :)

Love to all,

Mara

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18 October 2012

An Ordinary Person...Trying to Do Something Extraordinary


 

I just saw this video on Design Mom (it's from the "I'm a Mormon" video series) and I just melted.  It's the perfect example of what can happen when you try to do something extraordinary.

Oh man, I think it can be really difficult to figure out how and when we can go out and do something extraordinary in our lives.  There are so many logistics to consider.  And it might seem like a miracle to actually pull off something we've dreamed of doing.  But I've also learned that as I've sought after the "extraordinary" even in small ways in my daily life - even in some of my most mundane or unfavorable situations - that miracles have still happened.  MIRACLES!  :)  It's amazing!

I'll tell you a quick story.  (Even though nothing seems to be quick with me on this blog.  goodness. :)

I've had a few jobs in New York and most of them have just been incredible experiences.  But I had one job that happened to be in one of the most toxic work environments in New York City.  I actually knew that going in - but I also felt I could handle it.  And you know what?  It was a good experience.  I decided to seek after the extraordinary in that job - and amazing things still happened.  For example, I used the job and environment as an opportunity to practice the way I reacted to things.  And I used it as an opportunity to develop compassion for those around me, even if they weren't doing too well at the time.  Somehow, making this job a part of my spiritual practice resulted in one of the best experiences of my life.  And one of the best miracles was forming an amazing friendship with the woman who sat next to me.  We had some of the most meaningful conversations of my life during our time together, when we could hunker down amidst the negativity.  And those are some moments I'll hold near and dear forever.

Is there anything extraordinary that you would love to do in your life?  Big or small?  (Anyone who knows me knows that I think big, too :)  haha. 

Write your thoughts in the comments and perhaps as readers we can all share encouragement or even resources & ideas for how you could pull it off.  There's such an amazing community of readers here - and I'm sure something good could come of this.  I'll start off the comments with something big that I would love to do.  :)

With love,

Mara

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17 October 2012

My Mountain Man in The Adirondacks

Good-bye Brooklyn!  Heading to the hills.
My city husband is a mountain man at heart.  Danny grew up in Utah and literally had some of the most gorgeous mountains in the country in his backyard.  Mountains are near and dear to his soul.  And he does really miss them here in Brooklyn. 

 Even though we both really love camping, it turns out that until this weekend trip, we had never done it together!  I know, it kind of shocks me!  I think it's mostly because here in Brooklyn, time is very limited...and space, too.  No camping gear was to be found in this apartment.  But we decided to change that.....

16 October 2012

Parking in the Woods


On our hiking weekend, Danny and I arrived late at the trail head after driving through darling mountain towns in the Adirondacks.  We are nuts, I know, but we decided to spend the night in our car so that we could be right at the trail head at sunrise.  I had never slept in a car before, but it seemed like it wouldn't be too bad.  We parked and leaned back our seats.  I got out my sleeping bag for some extra comfort and warmth.  Danny was very, very certain he wouldn't need his sleeping bag and so he left it packed deep in his backpack.  Are you SURE, honey?  You won't get cold?  Positive!  The night carried on and I. didn't. sleep. a. lick.  I could tell Danny didn't either.  I actually had a bruise on my back from the discomfort of the seat.  It was one of the most uncomfortable nights of my life.  At 4:30 am, I hear Danny make loads of noise unwrapping a mylar blanket.  I melted.  The poor guy was cold and trying to not wake me.  Of course I was awake, so I surprised him and spread half my sleeping bag over to him.  I could have been as grumpy as can be.  And Danny, too.  This was one of those moments, you know.  But, instead we felt so sad for each other that we were so uncomfortable, cold, and couldn't sleep.  We do this thing where we pay close attention and if we notice the other person is not doing too well, then we kind of stop ourselves in our tracks and offer them MORE love/patience/kindness in that moment.  It's one of my favorite things that we do in our marriage!!!  And it averts grumpy moments (and worse) like you wouldn't believe.  And it leaves plenty of opportunity for good things to happen.  i.e. Danny said, "Well, if we're going to be awake, we might as well be together."  And then we found out why it's not a good idea for teenagers to park in cars in the woods.  :)

Here's a little challenge:  Pay close attention, and the next time your spouse is not doing too well for any reason (including if they are snappy or grumpy), see if you can up the love for them in that moment of weakness- it could come in the form of patience, the lack of agitation, gratitude, verbal expressions of love & appreciation, a calm demeanor, etc.  This is one of the most powerful marriage tips I can share :)

It would be so fun to hear if any of you do this! 

A few other posts I wrote on marriage that you might enjoy:
-The Best Tips I Can Give You for a REALLY, REALLY Great Marriage 
-Another Tip for Husbands & Wives
-A Date Night in Bed
-Dirty Socks & Smacking Lips
-Are You Working Away at a Hard Marriage?


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15 October 2012

Our Weekend: Speaking at a Retreat in Washington D.C.

Sometimes I can't believe our lives.  The situations we find ourselves in kind of take our breath away.
This weekend was one of those moments...  

We were asked to be the keynote speakers at a retreat for some single women in Washington D.C.  A lot of the women there have been reading our blog and so they wanted us to come speak to them.
We felt completely honored, of course, to be asked to do this.  But we had no idea what goodness was ahead for us...

Mormon single women, Washington D.C.
Mormon single women, Washington D.C.
We drove to D.C. on Friday night to give a 1 1/2 hour keynote address.  The next day we were asked to run a 2 hour workshop.  We were the ONLY speakers for the weekend.  Normally the pressure of this would have scared the living day lights out of me.  But, I applied the same principles that I always talk about on the blog (I apply them to everything), and I'm telling you....it totally works!!!   :)
 

Here's the way this works for public speaking:

When I feel a welling up of fear, doubt, worry, or anxiety - I choose to pursue a virtue.

In this case, I pursued LOVE for these women and desired to be a channel through which they could feel uplifted and loved.....I pursued COMPASSION for any trials that they may be facing.....HOPE that I could be my best self....FAITH (belief) that I could do this, and that I already had years of preparation and experience already within me to draw from.....GRATITUDE for this amazing opportunity to learn and grow and bond with some amazing women.....GRATITUDE for Danny, my partner in all things......GRATITUDE for the message of the blog, and that by some miracle at this time in our lives we have had this opportunity to share it with others.......JOY for this life and the experiences that we get to have....SELF-WORTH as in, I will still have self-worth, even if I fail....and again, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE for these women who are seeking good things and want to live the best lives they can, and who will likely remember my love for them more than what I say.

As you pursue a virtue and deliberately make these thoughts the script in your head, it's like the effort/energy of doing that literally uproots and replaces the fear/doubt/worry.  I'm telling you - it's ridiculously effective!!!  Try it!  And the more you do this, the easier and easier it becomes as you develop what I call "muscle memory": the pathways in your brain actually get rewired and your mind and heart and body become more accustomed to responding in this way.  Over time, you can truly begin to fully embody these virtues from the inside out. 

The result of doing this is nothing short of a miracle.  And I saw that unfold this weekend.  I mean, I once would have been terrified to no end in this situation, but actually went into the weekend with confidence & love.  We were able to speak from our hearts and have the most beautiful experience with these women.  I'll never forget it.

washington D.c. singles ward
And now, let me just say that the women we met were beautiful, impressive, smart, creative, educated, loving, articulate, inspiring, and with hearts full of charity and a desire to be the best women they can be.  Seriously - - - they were AMAZING - the kind of women you'd love to associate with, hire, be friends with, have a conversation with, marry, etc!!  If I was a single guy, I would be heading straight to Washington D.C. to meet some of these women.  Haha.  I wish I knew some really great guys to set them up with...they were that impressive.
 
Two of the women have blogs and wrote out some lovely posts about the weekend retreat, including some of what we shared with them:

One of the best parts was speaking to the women afterwards.  Friday night after we spoke, we should have headed to our hotel - but we couldn't pull ourselves away and ended up sitting in the kitchen jam packed with women until 1:00 am, sharing some thoughts about what matters most in a marriage, learning about feeling empowered and whole as a single woman, and tapping into self-worth.  It really was one of life's most beautiful moments.

And the guys from the Mormon singles' congregation in D.C. (where these women attend) came and decorated their cars during the night and left cute messages and candy all over their hoods and windows.  SO CUTE!

HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A WONDERFUL EVENING!

And thanks from the bottom of our hearts to all of you women we met over the weekend.  We'll never forget that beautiful experience. 

Lots of love,
Mara

P.S.  Awhile back I came across these performance tips by music performer, Mindy Gledhill.  These are really great and I've tried to remember these things this last year as I've had more and more speaking opportunities.   

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12 October 2012

Love Story: The Language of Love

'Love Story', A Blog About Love - melanie mauer photography          Photo by the wonderful Melanie Mauer, Bryant Park, NYC      

So - after meeting for the first time, Danny sent me flowers.  :)

And you can see in his notes here why this man thinks there is such a thing as "The Language of Love."  Danny believes that you can intentionally and very sincerely see the good in people and verbalize it.  It's something he has worked to develop as one of his mentors is the same way.  Danny  doesn't just offer this to me.  He sees the good in everyone around him.  And it's one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen.

Here's a few more emails from our 'Love Story' series....

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                                               Photo by Melanie Mauer, Bryant Park, NYC

OH MY GOSH !!!!!!
Danny, a flower delivery is on it's way up to my door........  :)   :)  :)

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Dearest Mara,

So, regarding the delivery....I went looking for an appropriate gift for you early last week, and found this beautiful arrangement.  I intended for them to arrive on Friday prior to my arrival, but didn’t realize how long in advance I would have had to place the order to make it there on time, so it’s a little bit late…sorry.  I loved the arrangement for its beauty, and also symbolism.  The white lilies are symbols of magnificent beauty (a tribute to you), and also humility and reverence (symbolic of how I [and you] have felt towards God as this relationship has miraculously unfolded).  The orange roses are symbolic of energy, warmth, enthusiasm, confidence, satisfaction and a passion for life (all constant undercurrents of our writing to each other and the way we live, and want to live, our lives).

Anyway, I hope they are as beautiful as they were online!

Love, 
Danny

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          Photo by Melanie Mauer, Bryant Park, NYC 

then later that afternoon....

Lovely Mara,

So, there is so much to say....where do I begin?  How about an I LOVE YOU!  I couldn't wait for those flowers to get to you.  At first I was disappointed when I realized they wouldn't arrive before I came.  And the thought occurred to me that ordering them anyway to arrive late might not be the best in the event that for some reason the spark hadn't been there.  But, I realized I didn't care!  I wanted you to receive them no matter what!  I was too grateful, I loved you too much not to send them, even if it only ended up being a token of appreciation.  I'm sooo happy that our weekend was indeed amazing, and that those flowers get to represent more than just appreciation. 

As for a quick meet-up between Boston and New York....um...yes please!  haha.  I'd drive to meet you half way somewhere if it meant I could at least have dinner with you, even if it meant I'd eventually have to tear myself away from you a few hours later as we both drive back to our homes.  Even better if you were able to come out for Sat/Sun!!!  I'll take whatever I can get!  I'll come pick you up if you need me too!

Mara....darling....love....I become more convinced each day that I must be one of the luckiest men alive.  Goodness!

Some things that I came to love about you after our weekend~

-I loved the look on your face when you ran out of your car to meet me, and the way you held me...it's like I really was yours
-I love that I felt that same way each time you hugged/touched me thereafter.
-I love your truly good heart, that I can tell you desire to lift up not only me, but everyone else you encounter
-I love your sense of style (both furnishings and clothing...so cool)
-I love your spinach infused shakes and your perfectly undercooked ginger snaps (that they're still soft as I eat them right now is a tribute to your cookie skills)
-I love you for being the kind of woman that can recognize the miracles that have shaped your life, and for being in tune enough for God to reach right out to you
-I love the way you encourage my dreams and express your confidence in me
-I love the way you bury your nose in my neck when you hug me :)
-I love that your TV isn't even hooked up right now!
-I love that your home feels like home
-I loved your city (both NY and Brooklyn) and I loved seeing it through your eyes. 
-I love that the nature of your character that I came to admire so much in email just shined in your every word and action.
-I love that all too cute smile, the slight narrowing of your eyes when your happy, those cheekbones and that magnificent curly hair, and yes...I'll just say it....every bit of you!  Wow!
-Most of all, I loved listening to some conference talks with you.  I love it that you enjoy being uplifted and taught.  And I loved just sitting by your side sharing it with you.
-Finally, well...I love you!

Thank you for still being as excited about all of this as I am.  Thank you for wanting to see me tonight, just like I'm dying to see you.  Thank you for thinking about ways to fit me in even if it might be entirely inconvenient.  Thank you for making every day a great one!

Goodnight love.  Thinking of you always!

Danny


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11 October 2012

The Secret to Better Work

We absolutely love you readers.  You guys send us so many great things out there that go along with the message of the blog, which is such a thrill for us.  Today's video here is one of those treasures.  So many of you passed this along and we thank you all.  If you have not yet seen this, you really should take a look (the last few minutes are amazing).  It's about the secret for SUCCESS in our work!  I think you'll see why we love this message so much.  :) 

And, as I'm writing this, I'm thinking of my own work....Right now it includes writing a post each day (which I love), managing this overall endeavor and thinking of new initiatives & new ways to improve this blog (mostly, I just try to keep up with my brain which is many, many steps ahead), and lots & lots of emailing with readers or associates.  And it includes tackling a to do list of home, life, and service-related responsibilities (I help run the women's organization at church.)  Whew.  I'm trying to consider how this message could affect each aspect of what I do as there is always room for improvement.  And, of course I'm also thinking about you all and the different kinds of varying "work" that you all must face each day...  

What does your "work" look like?  It helps to get down and dirty and really start to consider how this new formula for success could be a game changer. 


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