I wanted to address a few requests that have come in regarding a MAJOR, MAJOR TOPIC, I think, for women all over the place.... :)
HOW CAN I FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF WHEN EVERYONE AROUND ME IS PRETTIER/SKINNIER/RICHER/MORE CREATIVE/HAPPIER/A BETTER MOTHER/IN A BETTER MARRIAGE/ETC.?!
And, HELLO PRETTY BLOGS! HELLO GORGEOUS FACEBOOK PHOTOS! They have a tendency to start up that damaging script in our heads that says we are not good enough/smart enough/creative enough/skinny enough/desirable enough, etc. There is just so much access to other women & their lives, outfits, homes, parties, etc. And it seems more than ever before, women all over are plagued with comparing themselves to others, all along their self-esteem is deflating.
A dear reader wrote in to say that she struggles to find a balance between tapping into her true identity & worth (mentioned in the post called "Best Beauty Secret in the World") while at the same time, balancing her desires such as...
-Being super model-thin.
-Being the girl with the best outfit at the party.
-Being flirtatious with men.
-Being famous for something.
-Living in a nicer house.
This reminds me of some of the comments brought up in the response to the "Highlights from Alt Summit" post regarding comparing each others' fashion. I know it's so easy to fall victim to this crap whether it is comparing husbands (or lack thereof), the size of your butt/thighs/waist/boobs, comparing children's accomplishments, the success of others, how quickly someone lost weight after having a baby, or even how much of that dessert you finished compared to other women sitting next to you at a girls' night.
Well, I've been thinking a lot about my answer to this reader and my answer to all of you. For starters, can I just say, with all sincerity, that you women....ALL OF YOU....are wonderful. I haven't met a woman yet in my entire life who was not a beautiful human being with either the biggest heart or the best intentions to offer something good to this world. One of my greatest wishes ever is that we can all tap into our worth & end this horribly damaging cycle of comparing ourselves.
I know you can end that cycle.
Because I did.