23 October 2012


One of the hardest things to ever do is let go of any baggage that we feel we might have.  It can be hard to shake those voices in our head that say there is something wrong with us or that there is something in our history to be ashamed of.  We've all had to be face to face with shame.  And anyone who has ever worked through it would probably say it's one of the most empowering things they've ever done.

Here's proof that this is possible.  Read this amazing triumph from a reader and be inspired...

Recently, as I’ve been learning about emotions, I realized my study was connected with the monumental topic of vulnerability. (Light bulb!)  I was a shy, sensitive child who grew up in an environment where I did not learn to feel emotionally safe.  I finally realized over the last couple of weeks what that feeling is and why I've been closed off both to being vulnerable within myself and vulnerable with other people.

I started looking back at why I have felt so unsafe so much of the time.  All of my usual insecurities came back: will people like me, am I completely unhealthy, do I have what it takes to create healthy relationships, will I pass my baggage onto my children, can I be strong enough, whole enough, likable enough, good enough for...whatever?

Then, in another flash of light, I realized I am not my baggage.  Unsafe and unworthy is baggage I have carried with me, but it is not me.  I began to separate the labels and I looked around at my life with new eyes.  Doing that allowed me to answer those questions, drop my baggage, and step away from it.  I feel whole and empowered.  I know who I am.  I am a daughter of God, with beauty, strength, ability, and value.  I can be the best I can be right now, and that is enough.  In fact, it is better than I thought it was.


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  1. Lovely! As Eckhart Tolle says: you are not your thoughts, and not your emotions neither! How liberating is this???
    I hope this Anonymous reader will be able to live a wholehearted life from now on!
    I am very happy for her/him!

    Thanks for sharing!!!

  2. I feel as if you've been blogging exclusively for me these last few weeks. I get on every morning before work to see what you have posted and today, you hit it right on the money! I have this incredible baggage that weighs me down and no matter how I try to get rid of it, I can't. This helps. Thank you!!

  3. I literally was falling asleep last night, and going over in my head how I would ever tell whom I want to marry about my 'baggage'. It had been stressing me out. I'm a different person now, I want to feel comfortable in who I am without carrying all that around with me... the possibility that someone won't accept me because of it. I am not my baggage. I believe that I am a daughter of God, but I think maybe my self worth needs a little bit more work, because I'm still fighting to drop those bags and realize that I'm okay. Logically I know that I will be fine, and I can be happy now. I still struggle with taking that concept into my heart.

  4. Christ will help us drop our baggage. He paid for all sin, so he can take the bags. They are His.

  5. thank you for sharing. i had mixed feelings about your story but it was good.


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