-Hopefully by now you've seen this adorable new series called "Olive Us". It's produced by a very talented mom & dad and it's starring their adorable 6 children. They've created a culture within their family that focuses on being a good sibling. And now they have some beautiful little videos to share with the world to show what being a good sibling might look like (above is just the first video, but you can click here to see the rest.) I just love what they're doing. And seeing this beautiful family makes me look forward to being a mom.
-This is a great article on marriage from the Huffington Post: 15 Ways to Stay Married for 15 Years. I loved it. While I didn't agree with everything, there is still a lot of wisdom here. The comments are amazing to read, too.
-And here's a note from a reader that I thought I'd share. It was so moving to me. She's struggling with infertility but starting to change her perspective on the trial she's experiencing. This is truly amazing...truly a miracle that is happening. And these miracles are happening everyday with so many of you. I applaud you all for doing the work. I know you all have it in you. This note I share with you today is done so with the hope that it can inspire others, too. I send all of the love and encouragement in the world to each one of you.....
"Mara, thank you!! You have changed my life. I found your article Mother’s day weekend. You have given me the answer I have been praying for! My husband and I have not been handling the years of infertility very well. I hate Mother’s day, yet I know that it’s not all about me. My husband and I are very grateful and respectful and celebrate our mothers and the women in our lives the best that we can. But the day before Mother’s day was worse for me this year than the actual day itself…the anticipation…I even sent text messages to some auxillary leaders in my congregation telling them I would be absent and asking them not to drop off the customary Mother’s Day gift. As I was doing this I kept thinking “this is not me, I am not this person…I endure my trials well…why is this so hard? God doesn’t want me to be so sad and most definitely does not want me to wallow.”
Then I found your article. As I started reading I could not believe your attitude! It was so refreshing! As I read the tears streamed down my cheeks and I kept thinking “Good for her!!!…..but, I’m not there yet. She gets it!!….but, I’m not there yet. WOW!!! She is amazing and 100% correct…but I’m not there yet.”
Over the last week and a half I have really mulled over the things that you spoke of. I thought I had been handling things well, most of the time, but the pain is still so overwhelming at times that I can’t breathe. I’ve had an extra rough time lately, but I know that I can’t live like this. I have things to do and a life to live! I have come to this conclusion several times over the years and I have pulled myself up by the boot straps and moved on…but then something happens (pregnancy of someone close to me or a birth, etc) and I crumble. I don’t want to be ok most of the time to just crash and burn unexpectedly. I want to be the outgoing, bright, loving person I truly am all of the time. I know that there has to be a better way of thinking about and dealing with our trials. It is my choice! I choose to set a good example for my future children, and endure my trials well. I choose to take that pain and transform it into something productive. I am glad that you said that it takes PRACTICE because I know that it will, but you have changed my perspective. I have shared your story and perspective with my husband (who has an even harder time with our infertility than me) and I hope that he will join me, especially as he sees me putting it into practice.
I know that you have been able to get to the point you are at because of your faith in God and the strength He as given you has you have put your faith into practice. THANK YOU for sharing your beautiful story with my husband and I.
Hope you all have a wonderful holiday weekend! Danny and I will be spending time with a dear friend who will be in town (she was just in Egypt as a news reporter covering the elections!) AND - she just started a wonderful blog! You can read about her adventures here.)
Love to all,
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