25 May 2012

Love Announcements

-Hopefully by now you've seen this adorable new series called "Olive Us".  It's produced by a very talented mom & dad and it's starring their adorable 6 children.  They've created a culture within their family that focuses on being a good sibling.  And now they have some beautiful little videos to share with the world to show what being a good sibling might look like (above is just the first video, but you can click here to see the rest.)  I just love what they're doing.  And seeing this beautiful family makes me look forward to being a mom.

-This is a great article on marriage from the Huffington Post:  15 Ways to Stay Married for 15 Years.  I loved it.  While I didn't agree with everything, there is still a lot of wisdom here.  The comments are amazing to read, too. 

-And here's a note from a reader that I thought I'd share.  It was so moving to me.  She's struggling with infertility but starting to change her perspective on the trial she's experiencing.  This is truly amazing...truly a miracle that is happening.  And these miracles are happening everyday with so many of you.  I applaud you all for doing the work.  I know you all have it in you.  This note I share with you today is done so with the hope that it can inspire others, too.  I send all of the love and encouragement in the world to each one of you.....

"Mara, thank you!!  You have changed my life.  I found your article Mother’s day weekend.  You have given me the answer I have been praying for!  My husband and I have not been handling the years of infertility very well.  I hate Mother’s day, yet I know that it’s not all about me.  My husband and I are very grateful and respectful and celebrate our mothers and the women in our lives the best that we can.  But the day before Mother’s day was worse for me this year than the actual day itself…the anticipation…I even sent text messages to some auxillary leaders in my congregation telling them I would be absent and asking them not to drop off the customary Mother’s Day gift.  As I was doing this I kept thinking “this is not me, I am not this person…I endure my trials well…why is this so hard?  God doesn’t want me to be so sad and most definitely does not want me to wallow.”

Then I found your article.  As I started reading I could not believe your attitude!  It was so refreshing! As I read the tears streamed down my cheeks and I kept thinking “Good for her!!!…..but, I’m not there yet.  She gets it!!….but, I’m not there yet.  WOW!!!  She is amazing and 100% correct…but I’m not there yet.”

Over the last week and a half I have really mulled over the things that you spoke of.  I thought I had been handling things well, most of the time, but the pain is still so overwhelming at times that I can’t breathe.  I’ve had an extra rough time lately, but I know that I can’t live like this.  I have things to do and a life to live!  I have come to this conclusion several times over the years and I have pulled myself up by the boot straps and moved on…but then something happens (pregnancy of someone close to me or a birth, etc) and I crumble.  I don’t want to be ok most of the time to just crash and burn unexpectedly.  I want to be the outgoing, bright, loving person I truly am all of the time.  I know that there has to be a better way of thinking about and dealing with our trials.  It is my choice!  I choose to set a good example for my future children, and endure my trials well.  I choose to take that pain and transform it into something productive.  I am glad that you said that it takes PRACTICE because I know that it will, but you have changed my perspective.  I have shared your story and perspective with my husband (who has an even harder time with our infertility than me) and I hope that he will join me, especially as he sees me putting it into practice.

I know that you have been able to get to the point you are at because of your faith in God and the strength He as given you has you have put your faith into practice.  THANK YOU for sharing your beautiful story with my husband and I.

'Overcoming trials is no easy feat.  But doing so is a gift to the world.  It’s a gift to your spouse, your children (born or unborn) and really, all humanity.'  It is my goal to share this gift with the world in the way that you have.  You will be a WONDERFUL mother!  From the bottom of my heart, thank you!"

Hope you all have a wonderful holiday weekend!  Danny and I will be spending time with a dear friend who will be in town (she was just in Egypt as a news reporter covering the elections!)  AND - she just started a wonderful blog!  You can read about her adventures here.)

Love to all,

Mara

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4 comments:

  1. If you want to know of an incredibly heartbreaking story where someone has chosen to find happiness:

    Sheldonandjulieo.blogspot.com

    She experienced infertility for seven years. Then she adopted. Then she experienced a loss that would probably break the best among us. Her pain is still new and raw but it's already apparent that she is choosing to find beauty and meaning in her life.

    Thought you and others may be inspired by her lovely attitude.

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  2. Wow Nicole! This is so heart breaking and inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing it!

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  3. Dear Mara, I guess I have been behind in the blogging world but I just found your blog on pinterest. They pinned your tips on Marriage that was from last year. So in the last 20 minutes of my rare spare time I have been over looking your posts and I love them! You are so talented and have such a great outlook on life and of course love. I have to tell you i have been married for 13 years and my husband and I struggled with infertility for 7 years. We did IVF 3 times and had no success and yet the doctors could not find anything wrong with us. We then felt like adoption was the a great choice for our family. Well a shorten version of a long long story within 3 years 9 months we were blessed with 4 little beautiful children. 2 adopted and 2 naturally. Now our lives are crazy with a 5, almost 4, 3, and 1.5 year old to chase around but I feel so blessed. I know that I am a better person in all aspects of my life because of my trials. Thanks for sharing your stories and advice. I will for sure be a follower.

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  4. Wow Mara! I've been really behind on reading blogs, and I can't believe how much yours has grown! What a great decision to start a blog on a subject so many are needing some hope.

    And I loved that link above to the marriage tips. I recently made a similar list and I was happy to see that many of them were the same. Guess it really isn't brain surgery making a marriage work. It's just two people willing to make it happen! Best of luck :)

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