Ok, my friends,
I feel a bit strange writing this post. But a lot of people have asked me about how I stay thin.
I want to be sensitive talking about this since weight can be such a challenging thing for many. If maintaining a healthy weight is a difficult part of your life right now, my heart goes out to you! I know that internally, for many, it can really be a major hardship. But I do have a few things to share that might be helpful, so I figured I’d pass them along.
But first, I wanted to open with my thoughts on being thin. So this is Part 1. Part 2 will come out tmw.
I wish I could convince all of you that being skinny or your perfect weight, whatever that is, isn’t all that. I mean, it’s fine. But it isn’t what equates to real beauty & real happiness. Weight is like an optical illusion 🙂 I think it’s easy to perceive that weight will make someone beautiful/happy. But that is not reality! Weight is always changing. It’s the last thing we should base our happiness on. I want so much to advocate beauty in all shapes and sizes because we are all so different & thank goodness we have different genes of all types. There is so much potential for us all to be unique and to just GLOW! Some of you may not believe me, but that glow and attractiveness and lasting confidence/happiness really, really doesn’t have anything to do with weight!
Please know that I say this with so much compassion, as I know this is not an easy thing to conquer….but sadly, one thing that can actually really prevent someone from being “beautiful” is the very act of wishing desperately day & night that they were a different size and moping around about it, complaining about it, having awful thoughts about it, feeling guilty and ugly, comparing themselves to others non-stop, feeling jealous, feeling undesirable, and believing that they will never be happy with themselves until they are a different weight/shape than they are now. Just think of the negativity that one could carry around (& force upon loved ones. eeks!) when this desire to be different consumes them. That kind of life is not attractive.
SO – even in this moment, say to yourself that you don’t have to lose weight to radiate beauty & confidence. Say it over & over & over. Try to really believe this. Try to feel that beauty, regardless of your weight.
For true beauty and long-lasting happiness – the kind that GLOWS – the kind that everyone will be attracted to – the kind that will attract lovely people and good-hearted men, the kind that will just radiate…you must work to give up the misery, emotional suffering, worthlessness, & guilt associated with wanting to be skinny. I hope within this blog you can find some posts on self-worth, happiness & love that can help you to do that. We always say that real happiness is not dependent on circumstance….and that includes weight, too.
NOW, there are these things called health & energy. 🙂 We all know that having an abundance of weight will not do you good in either category. Having a healthy body & active energy IS important…In fact, it’s DIRECTLY related to being able to face your challenges and do all the stuff we talk about on this blog (it takes a lot of energy to do what we talk about…and so the more you have, the better! 🙂 Physical health is completely connected to emotional/mental/spiritual health. I know this all too well and so do my best (& often fail) at getting my walk or run in, eating nutrient rich foods, etc. I often think of this blog and think – – I have to keep myself healthy in order to keep up with the emotional aspects of writing and sharing and giving my best for a greater good. Or I think of my dear husband and think – I want to offer him the best – and that includes a wife that is full of energy & life. So no matter what stage we’re in, let’s seek after health & energy for all the right reasons…
To sum it up…….
1. Give up the obsession that being “skinny” or weighing less will make you attractive & solve all your problems. Instead…
2. Believe that HEALTH will give you the strength & energy you need to face your problems (great side effect: Being healthy will probably make you look great, anyway!)
3. Need some motivation to switch this perspective? Do it out of LOVE for loved ones. (Yes, it always goes back to love 🙂 haha. Find a way to let love power anything that you are doing, and it will give you the fuel you need to do really hard things. 🙂
Tomorrow I’ll post some more on this subject, including a list of specific things I do that I think have contributed to why I am thin, in case you’d like some tips on that subject.
For now, I’m curious, do you guys find that your happiness & peace fluctuates along with your weight?
I know this may sound crazy but I look forward to having a big butt and baby weight during a pregnancy. haha. I’ve put this stuff into practice in little ways & so I look forward to facing a changing body with this perspective. It’s really quite amazing & fun to be liberated.
(poster above by Shigedo Fukuda, a Japanese graphic designer/artist who created optical illusions.)
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