12 April 2012
A Date Night in Bed
More sex tips from ABAL, oh my! :) I hope it's ok with you if we talk about intimacy openly from time to time...after all, this is A Blog About Love :) And we think it's important to talk about it as it is one of the most important & beautiful parts of a marriage.
I hope this doesn't sound too Cosmo. Eeks! That is not my intention. Just want to share a tip that I think is really great & that I think might be helpful for a lot of people out there....
Have a date in bed - - in other words, set aside some time to be together (no clothes allowed :) and here's the key...do not make sex the agenda. Yep, no sex :) You know how much I believe sex is so important in a marriage, but to vary the emotional intimacy & connection from time to time, I think it's so nice to be together in such an intimate way without the expectation that this moment is leading to sex. It allows you to have some set aside time for intimate, loving & kind conversation with your spouse...the kind that maybe doesn't happen in such a powerful way so often due to time/schedule/work/kids/etc. (And I'm guessing that long, natural conversation & completed sentences aren't exactly happening during sex, either, right? ha!) So....
-Ask your spouse to just cuddle.
-Lay very close to each other.
-Caress, etc., etc.
-Speak as kindly as possible to one another.
-Tell each other all the things you appreciate about each other.
-Tell each other thank you for all that they are doing for your family.
-Ask if there's anything you can do for the other person.
-No rush. Just many moments of togetherness and closeness & tender conversation.
-Fall asleep together.......OR........yes, finish with sex. Whatever strikes your fancy. Either way, you'll feel very connected to your spouse.
And, put those candles to work. They really do something magic.
P.S. Danny is blushing more than me. :)
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