New Series: Reader Round-up

I wanted to start a new little segment called “Reader Round-up”.  Basically, we are blown away by you readers on a daily basis!  So many comments come in that are SO insightful & very helpful to us and others.  We don’t want your wisdom to go unnoticed, so we will be highlighting a few of our favorite comments, as well as anything else from you that is fun to share.


-For starters, can you believe how cute this photo is??  Yes, this reader was wearing this outfit on the day I posted about Veruca Salt.  The dress, hair & peter pan collar (a trend I am nuts over) could not be more dead on!  I about died when she sent this to me because I have been stalking her blogs for months now (Hairdresser on Fire and Reagan’s Blob).  I was so happy to connect with her.

-I love this article (A Sabbatical From Men) sent along from reader, Pam.  It’s full of some good advice- the stuff that happy lives and happy marriages are made of.  It’s about filling your own cup so you can share it with others.

-A big shout out to Someone in Mind.  She so kindly offered some tech help to me.  So sweet of her.    Thank you!

-We LOVE this fantastic article you may have seen, written by a woman who actively chose peace when her husband was trying to leave her (thx to Linsey, The Mother Runner, Design Mom, & Hadley for sending us this!)

And, some wonderful quotes from the comments:

“I find the best thing to do when I find myself envying someone is asking myself how I can be more like them.  How can I use this person as a role model?  Sometimes it is something I want to do, like complementing others or using more patience with my kids.”   -Elizabeth

-“Thank you, Danny and Mara! Your blog has changed my outlook on a difficult situation in my marriage.  My wonderful husband was diagnosed with major depression this past summer.  As I moped and felt sorry for myself because he had no energy to help around the house, go to work, or engage in conversation with me, I was becoming a version of myself that I didn’t like.  I realized that every time I let self pity creep in I was making things worse for both of us.  I didn’t want to be the person I was becoming and I certainly didn’t want him to feel worse about being sick so I worked on changing my attitude.  As soon as I let go of the self pity, I felt stronger.  It may sound odd, but once I readjusted my attitude, my husband’s depression actually brought us closer together.  Things certainly aren’t perfect, but I have learned from both of you to be still when my husband is acting in a dysfunctional manner and to focus on the fact that he is hurting.  That one line from a previous post has made a huge difference in my life.  You two are doing beautiful work.”   -Anonymous

-“I also think a good way to beat jealousy is to really try to get to know people past a skin-deep level. Ask what their childhood was like, what their family is like, what their hobbies are. You may find out the most interesting things that help you think of someone in a whole new way. The model tall woman may have been a basketball star with no fashion sense and no dates all through high school. But that’s cool, and interesting. Everyone has a deeper story to tell. The doctor’s wife may have traveled a long road with that doctor as he went through his residency and internships. Everything is not all roses, but it’s the little differences we find out about people that make them all the more fascinating…and less the objects of our jealousy.”   -Cecilia

-“To anyone who might wonder if it is possible for a blog to change a person’s outlook, and in turn, change a person’s life, I must say that it is very possible–because your blog has changed mine.
Without getting into too much detail, I just want to mention (or admit), that while going through a trial recently, I had the unfortunate inclination to blame that trial on my spouse.  It consumed me.  I just couldn’t seem to get past my feelings.  Luckily, I came across your blog, and have faithfully read every post you have posted.  It has truly transformed my way of thinking.
I once felt victimized, I now feel blessed.
I once felt undeserving of my pain, I now see it as a gateway to growth.
I once felt alone in my suffering, I now recognize that my spouse was suffering just as much as I was.
I was being selfish, I am now working on becoming selfless.
I was thinking of a way out, you helped me to stay in.
Thank you.”    -Anonymous 

We really do love you readers….each & every one.  We wish you all the best in your lives.  We are rooting for everyone.  And we’re excited for those that are doing the work to have more peace & happiness.

Happy weekend to all.

With love,

Mara & Danny

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  1. Molly February 3, 2012 at 7:00 am - Reply

    This is so sweet! I really love how you guys respond to your readers. You acknowledge that we are here. There are lots (and lots) of blogs out there where the authors never respond to comments. I tend to stop leaving comments on those blogs, because I kind of feel like I'm talking to a web site and not people. It's strange. I'm not offended in any way–I know people are very busy. It just doesn't seem worth the time to type a comment. Does that make sense? I hope so! But we feel the love from you guys. It's refreshing.

  2. rebecca February 3, 2012 at 12:10 pm - Reply

    well hello over here reagan. 🙂 looking like a scene from willy wonka.

  3. Cecilia February 3, 2012 at 2:19 pm - Reply

    What a sweet series. I'm so honored you included my comment!

    I also have to say, that NYtimes article about choosing peace over separation is an insightful and inspiring read. I'm so glad you shared it here!

  4. jen February 3, 2012 at 2:57 pm - Reply

    Loved the NY Times article! Makes me wonder how differently my parents could have handled things when they both hit the midlife crisis period (they divorced). I've never had good role models for healthy marriages so I'm learning day by day (we've been married 9 years this summer) and find your blog so inspiring. Your posts are thoughtful and positive, I feel like I'm becoming a better person just by reading them. 😉
    Have a great weekend!

  5. Anonymous February 3, 2012 at 3:32 pm - Reply

    wow i loved the ny article! thanks for sharing!

  6. Dominique February 3, 2012 at 7:41 pm - Reply

    I really love that NY Times article. Fearless, that's what comes to mind when thinking about how she responded to her husband during his crisis. I like how she remained focused that it was his struggle and that she kept enough distance to let him get through it with destroying their family. I may never write publicly about my own rocky marital experience, but relating to this one comes pretty close. Thanks for putting up the link.

  7. Pam G February 3, 2012 at 10:52 pm - Reply

    I think it's wonderful that you honor your readers, and think I can safely say that all of us appreciate the open and supportive forum you provide.

    • mara February 3, 2012 at 11:14 pm - Reply

      Pam – we're so glad to hear you feel that way. We're trying! And we're just amazed to see some really great conversations happening between readers. We hope it can always be a place where people can both receive & offer inspiration.

  8. Someone In Mind February 8, 2012 at 7:40 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much for the Mention! You are super nice to do that because you really didn't have to. Let me know if you ever need anything Mara.

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