In November Mara was invited to write a guest post for Blogstar’s series – “My Life As a Blog”. Mara’s been meeting so many new people at Alt Summit that ask her what her blog is all about and why she got started, we thought this would be a perfect way to share what drives us.
I always wanted to tap into my life’s “mission”. I always envied people who knew what they wanted to do and gave their heart and soul to it every single day.
I guess during most of my last 12 years in New York, my main goal was SURVIVAL. Surviving long New York workdays. Surviving this expensive city & providing for myself. And later trying to survive the dark pain of infertility, followed by a crumbling marriage. But just “surviving” was no way to live. At times I was hanging by a thread.
But about 5 years ago, the luckiest thing ever happened to me! Someone pulled me out of the deep end and began teaching me a better way to live. I began applying everything I was learning, and my life could not have taken a more complete turn. IT WAS A MIRACLE. I was so amazed that I had the power within me to change like that & to actually become a happier person. I figured out then that there is NOTHING better in this life than knowing what you are made of. Literally nothing.
I knew early on that this information was not just for me in my living room. I knew I had to share it! Ahh…I FINALLY HAD A MISSION! Now I just needed an outlet.
I started by sharing all I knew with those around me, but that wasn’t enough. I felt I could do more.
Along the way I met Danny,who had experienced many of my same trials, had learned the same truths, and was just as committed as I was to uplifting those around him! The two of us got married, and together we are completely joined in our desire to help others.
It seemed like every time we were with friends, family, and even strangers, the conversations would always lead to things that matter the most: how can I love in a healthy way? how can I face marriage, being single, dating, trials, divorce, infertility, etc?
The more people we helped, the more we wished that some of this stuff was recorded or written down. The more emails we sent to friends, the more we wished that others could read those same words of hope. But we didn’t know how to do it. I would nudge Danny jokingly that we should write a book. Ha! But that seemed too far off. I couldn’t wait for that!! I was bursting inside for MONTHS, wanting to do something NOW to start helping people on a larger scale.
I started taking notes of some of the conversations I was having with others to see if writing could be a successful way for me to get my message out. At the time, I was working at a hedge fund in Manhattan. And everyday on the subway, or while sitting in my infertility clinic, or on my walk breaks across the street in Central Park, I would write my brains out, jotting down ideas that came to me, recording the messages that made the most impact in my life & the lives of others. And with the collection of these notes came the idea: I should start a blog! Did I have what it took? I didn’t care! I had to try. What better way to reach family, friends, and strangers all over the WORLD! I finally had my platform!
Writing this blog has been one of the most joyful things I’ve ever done. I love it. I can’t get enough of it. I wish I didn’t have to sleep so that I could respond to more emails and write more posts!
I received many kind emails and comments during those first few weeks of being a blogger. One reader going through a very difficult moment wrote the following:
“A few days ago, my husband said, ‘What changed in you? You’re whole countenance has changed in the last week. What is it?’ So I showed him your blog and said, ‘That’s what’s changed. I’ve found someone who is teaching me how to handle my trials better.’”
Could there be any better words to hear? I knew I was doing exactly what I should be doing.
I’m not writing this blog for me. I’m writing it for you, whoever you are. Because maybe you are “me” 5 years ago, and you need someone to show you a better way to live, just like someone showed me.