13 January 2012

F.A.Q.s of {A Blog About Love}

This is our neighborhood in Brooklyn!
Here are some questions we have received.  Just thought I'd pass on our answers....

Why did you decide to hold off on IVF?
Some friends mentioned a treatment that I really should try and it sounded so intriguing that I couldn't pass it up.  Mostly, my gut said to go for it.  It's called BodyTalk.  The person I am seeing is Maria Petrova in Manhattan.  She is one of the most wonderful, beautiful women I've ever met, and I couldn't be happier about the sessions I've had with her.  I cannot recommend her enough.  Even if you are not looking to get pregnant, a few sessions with her just might help you heal in whatever way you need and change your life for the better.  She calls me "Bright Star" :) and I am just grateful to know her.

AND, while in Utah, I met up with Mark Johnson, a homeopathic practitioner in Orem.  Hundreds of women have gotten pregnant because of his treatments.  His record is a woman that had tried for 25 years.  He gives you some drops to take.  For $50, I'm game to try it. 

Why don't you guys adopt?
We'd love to adopt soon if I don't get pregnant.  And even if I do get pregnant, we would still likely adopt in the future so that we can grow our family.  The agency we want to use requires that you have been married for 2 years.  This spring we'll be qualified.  In the meantime, if any of you know of someone who would like a very happy, loving couple to adopt their baby, keep us in mind, would you?  :)

Why are you on a Gluten-Free/Dairy-Free/Soy-Free diet?
I have been diagnosed with allergies to these foods.  Separate from that, I have received advice from multiple practitioners that these foods can help reduce inflammation in my body, which could help with getting pregnant.  I tell ya, when you can't get pregnant, you're game to try anything.  The good news is, it makes me feel AWESOME.  It makes such a huge difference in the way I feel & look that I kinda can't imagine going back.  The bad news (for conceiving) is that it makes you lose a ton of weight and it makes me feel further away from getting pregnant.

So what DO you eat?
For meals:  fish, filet mignon, sauteed/stir-fried or roasted vegetables, quinoa, beans, lentils, rice, soups, salads, pot roast, chili, lots of Thai food (with rice noodles), Mexican food, Ethiopian food, Chinese food, Vietnemese, Middle Eastern, Indian food, & GF sushi.  Instead of pasta, I eat my husband's zucchini ribbon pasta (zucchini julienned in a mandoline, then sautéed with olive oil, garlic, salt & pepper.  It's actually waaaay better than traditional pasta!!)

For breakfast:  eggs, turkey, ham, spinach/vegetable omelets, fruit, nuts & dried fruit, spinach & berry smoothies, GF granola, GF oats.  (I need to try almond milk once & for all!) Once in a while I do eat GF whole grain bread from my favorite GF company ever, Udi's.  That bread is ridiculously good for being gluten-free.  My foodie husband LOVES it, too.

For snacks/treats:  dark chocolate, nuts, dried fruit, GF/Allergen Free Snickerdoodles from Trader Joe's (seriously amazing), corn chips & salsa, guacamole, lentil chips from Trader Joe's (really good), jerky, rice crackers & hummus, GF granola, popcorn, coconut milk ice-cream, Udi's GF muffins. 

Are you eating enough fat?  
I have never been one to turn away anything fattening.  I intentionally eat high fat foods such as avocados, olives, coconut, salmon, nuts, eggs, olive oil, coconut oil, flax seed, almond butter/peanut butter, and bacon & eggs.  It's actually trickier than you would think to work in these foods more than you would otherwise.  How many of you let your husbands cook your eggs in bacon grease?  I do.

Where do you guys shop?
I really don't shop much, actually.  Danny loves that about me :)  Mainly I wear HARVEY FAIRCLOTH clothes from my Harvey days.  I also love APC, Uniqlo and J.Crew.  I love purchasing vintage from Beacon's Closet, E-bay, or Etsy.  I also love cheap finds from just about anywhere: H&M, Target, Old Navy, etc.  And many of my clothes were free from my former boss's wife (sweet hook-up, I know.)

Shoes?  I need shoes, I'll tell you that.  Last couple of pairs I got were some boots from Frye (which I wear pretty much everyday) & actually a pair last season from Payless (yep!)  If I was more of a shopper, I'd go to Siegerson Morrison, Loeffler Randall, J.Crew, Barney's.

Danny LOVES Uniqlo and J.Crew.  He has the best eye for clothes.  Since we met, he has picked out several outfits and items for me.....which makes me m-e-l-t.

So what else do you do besides blog?
Danny works with schools to implement software for Special Ed children and ESL children in New York.  He loves it.  And he cooks like a chef around here every night.
For me, writing posts takes up a lot of my time, but I also try to help out friends when they need it, clean this apt. periodically, try my best to keep up with emails, stay very involved in activities/events/service endeavors through church, get 8 hours of sleep like a spoiled brat, and run & walk daily at the park. :)  I'd love to keep blogging forever.  It has been a wonderful experience.

Why haven't you responded to my email?
I am dying to!!!!  :)  I thank each and everyone of you for writing!!  THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!  I want so much to respond to all of you and I'll keep working at it as best I can.  Your words & stories mean so much & I don't want to discourage anyone from writing.  You all inspire me so much and even guide me in writing posts that may be helpful to you.  And your words keep me going & inspire me to continue putting my heart & soul into this (you have no idea!).  Thank you.

Do you guys want sponsors?
Yes, please!  Please write us at mara@ablogaboutlove dot com.


  1. Mara,
    I love your posts. I looke forward to them every day. They are so uplifting and wonderful. And I adore the picutres! It seems like such an adventure to live in the BIG city and to have had your own business. How excting. Good luck on your endeavors to get pregnant your in my prayers! ;-)

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  3. Thank you (or really thank Danny) for the Zucchini Pasta idea. I haven't eaten pasta for years so this is a great idea I never would have thought of.....Also, thanks for the posts. I always look forward to reading when there is a new one.

    1. We'll try to post the full recipe soon. It is one of our favorite things to eat, gluten free or not.

  4. You ARE a bright start. Thanks for sharing what you eat, I had no idea a diet like that would be so inclusive, I was expecting something else entirely. I'm so excited for you and Danny to become parents :)

  5. I love Zucchini Pasta. We've been making it with a spiralizer which has been a lot of fun because it makes it all curly and noodly. This morning I've been thinking I need to make up another batch of that vegan cheese dip that we made with you on vacation. I'll put up photos with directions. Unfortunately, I found it is a lot of stress on a normal blender (think I owe my sister a new blender). With extra water it would work, you and Danny should try it on those zucchini noodles - Macaroni and Cheese!

    1. I can't wait to try this - - that would seriously be delicious!

  6. I am a huge believer in the power of BodyTalk. My family has seen amazing results over the past three years, even our two young children. I hope your journey is filled with great experiences as well ... and a baby along the way.

  7. Oh such a fun post. Love learning all these bits and pieces and checking out the links.

    You're diet sounds amazing and loaded with great foods. I personally enjoy my food so much more now that I don't eat gluten/dairy, etc... Oh and eggs in beacon grease- yes please!

    I us a Kuhn Rikon Julienne Peeler for the zuck noodles- totally love it.

    Very excited to see where this blog goes in the next few years!

  8. So now I'm totally intrigued and impressed with Danny's work. I have a daughter with special needs and I'm interested in what type of technology he introduces? If you pop over to my blog you can see pics of my little babe if you're interested. My daughter was born with limb differences and only has one mitten-like hand with no thumb. If Danny has time I'd be interested to hear more about technology for kids with physical limitations like hers.

    1. Miggy - I remember seeing your blog sometime ago and thought you are doing such a lovely thing by spotlighting these wonderful children and their families. My mother has spent years working as a speech pathologist, and spent a good portion of that time working with kids with severe physical or mental disabilities. So thank you for doing your own version of that work by letting these kids and their families know that they are wonderful! Through my mom's work, I saw first hand how children that many would have simply dismissed went on to accomplish amazing things (it's amazing what happens when parents tell a child, even one with physical limitations, that anything is possible)...see one of her former students here http://cnettv.cnet.com/sat-spotlight-megan-rees/9742-1_53-50059387.html

      As for what I do, I work for Imagine Learning. They've developed amazing software that helps struggling readers, English language learners and students with disabilities develop crucial language and literacy skills. I work with principals and administrators to define the appropriate implementations in their schools and I manage the relationship going forward.

      It is software, and not some awesome advanced technology that would help children overcome physical limitations. Mostly we're helping to close a literacy and learning gap. I sure wish there was something more that we were doing to help your family and your adorable daughter.

      Best - Danny

    2. Danny--

      Thank you. It's been a good series. And thank you for the video...what an amazing girl. Those kinds of stories bring a smile to my face. I'm grateful for a day and age where diversity and acceptance are things to be strived for. As far as your work, I was wondering if it were something along the lines of--I don't even really know--but like apps and ipads that would help kids communicate or something with physical disabilities. Or something! Honestly, I was just curious. I don't worry too much about our daughter...she's figuring things out and melting hearts along the way. But I just had to ask. I'm always impressed with people who's work it is to help those with special needs. High fives to you and Mara for being awesome.

    3. Shoot--obviously that was me.

  9. I really just want to know how you wear lipstick without your hair getting stuck in it the second you walk outside. I'm not even kidding. That would be the one question I'd want to ask you. Ha! No really--I revisit lipstick periodically, but I have big hair like you and that just doesn't work if there is any breeze whatsoever. Share your wisdom with me. ;)

    (Really, I love your blog and everything in it. Not just your lipstick.)

    1. Hahha. Love it. Well, my hair never really get stuck. I have kind of coarse hair. Maybe it blows around less, I don't know. I guess if it was incredibly windy and my hair was blowing crazy, I'd probably fold my lips in for a second. Wish I had a better tip for you!

  10. You mentioned that you want to try Almond Milk...as I sit here reading your blog I am eating, for the first time, our home made almond milk...it is really nothing like store bought. I totally recommend making it yourself - so creamy and delicious!!
    P.S. Your blog is fantastic!

  11. I love you guys and I love your blog! I really don't understand why people care so much what you eat and if you are getting enough fat and why you haven't adopted! Seriously...some people are so nosy. You two are wonderful and what you share on your blog has helped me and I'm sure lots of other people :)

  12. Mara, does this mean you don't have to work at a paid job on a regular basis??? If so, good for you!

  13. I am curious what tests you had for your food intolerances? Was it the IgE & IgG4 Allergy Screening? I am battling infertility as well and am game to change whatever I need to in the process. I was thinking about getting this screening to see if I have any sensitivites lurking. Please share what tests you had, if you can! Thanks!


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