This time of year is one of the best ever. I love, love, love the change of a new year and the tradition of focusing on the kind of life that I want for myself. It’s the most empowering feeling to know that I get to choose the way I experience my life and that I get to make adjustments as often as I want.
Over the years I’ve had goals related to business ventures (ha!), saving a certain amount of money, owning a washer & dryer in New York :), owning a parking space, buying a brownstone, traveling abroad, or somehow….becoming a mother. There is nothing wrong with these goals…but at this point in my life, the most important goal I seek after each and everyday is trying to maintain my connection to the Divine throughout my experiences, especially during the most difficult ones. I’ve learned there is NOTHING better than this. It really does trump every other thing I could do or achieve in this life.
While we are all faced with different circumstances, our journey of trying to feel whole, improve, & face our trials is the same. No matter what goals you may have for this new year, may I suggest that you look at your life and your beautiful self with gratitude. And depending on where you are in your life right now, even if you can’t think of much to be grateful for, be grateful for the opportunity you have to change. Even if your circumstances are not changeable, YOU can always change and become something greater than you are.
And, as we work to improve ourselves, may we not dwell in negativity because of any weakness, flaw or inadequacy we have now. May we go after our goals with all our hearts – yes! – but dismiss that harmful script in our head that says, “We aren’t good enough.” Instead, as hard as it may seem, let’s accept that our weaknesses are necessary for us to improve, and embrace them and be grateful for them! That tiny change in perspective is HUGE.
One of the most inspiring women I know shared this quote with us today (her husband just passed away one year ago from rare disease.) It inspires me as I think about my goals for this new year…
“No pain that we suffer,
no trial that we experience is wasted.
It ministers to our education, to the development
of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude, and humility.
All that we suffer and all that we endure,
especially when we endure it patiently,
builds up our characters, purifies our hearts,
expands our souls, and makes us more tender and charitable,
more worthy to be called the children of God…
and it is through sorrow and suffering, toil and tribulation,
that we gain the education that we came here to acquire
and which will make us more like our Father in heaven.”
-Orson F. Whitney
(Photo from Well+Good NYC)