15 December 2011

What Are You Without?

(From Danny:)

This weekend I was glancing through the dog-eared pages of Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth" to remind myself of some of the wisdom I found in that book when I was reading it two years ago.  I kind of like that back then I dog-eared the pages instead of underlining like I do now (today I almost refuse to read enlightening books if I can't also have a pen in hand to underline and write notes in the margins of every page).  The earmarks forced me to read the entire page to remember what it was that I found so interesting that it merited a folded page.  Looking at the various folded pages distracted me, in a good way, for two hours, especially when I came across this little gem on the principle of Abundance:
Acknowledging the good that is already in your life is the foundation for all abundance.  The fact is: Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world.
Try this for a couple of weeks and see how it changes your reality:  Whatever you think people are withholding from you - praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on - give it to them.  You don't have it?  Just act as if you had it, and it will come.  Then, soon after you start giving, you will start receiving.  You cannot receive what you don't give. Outflow determines inflow.  Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you already have, but unless you allow it to flow out, you won't even know that you have it.  This includes abundance.  The law that outflow determines inflow is expressed by Jesus in this powerful image: "Give and it will be given to you.  Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. (Luke 6:38)"
Now that is certainly something worth thinking about.   Call it what you want to: karma, the law of the harvest, the law of attraction, the Golden Rule, etc.  They all mean the same thing...what you send out to the world through each of the hundreds of interactions every day will come back to you.

I suppose that is why Mara and I have this blog...this is one of many outlets for us to practice offering goodness, respect, kindness, love, etc.  I'd say so far we've received just as much in return as we've sent out...if not more.

And what about you readers.  Have you ever found this principle to be true for you?  If not, are you willing to give it a shot?  Will you try giving what you don't have in the hopes of discovering you had it all along?  I suppose the Holiday season is as good excuse as any to offer up some joy to someone else who needs it!


  1. That is awesome! I think I must read that book!

  2. That is awesome! I think I must read that book!

  3. I love A New Earth- such a great book! Must dig mine out and re-read it. I'm currently reading Man's Search For Meaning after seeing it here (it had been on my to-read list for ages) :)

  4. I'm adding this book to my wish list! Just yesterday I found myself in a situation at work where I was able to put this into practice and it absolutely turned my day around.

    Some days are easier than others to practice this, though; it's often hard for me let go of my own "stuff". I really want to be able to live with this sort of attitude on a more consistent basis.

    Do you and Mara have any tips on how to move past it when you can't seem to pull yourself up and get past your own...self?

  5. Danny & Mara,
    I've been reading your blog for a few weeks now, it is beautiful! You two are beautiful! Thank you for telling us, (your readers) your life's lessons, heartaches, truths, and joys. I truly have learned from you both.
    I was wondering if it would be ok if I shared with my YW's group this week what you shared today? I'm giving a lesson on service and this is so so so true.
    Thank you again for the beautiful love story.

  6. JACI - Yes! Please do share with the young women. That would be wonderful. Pretty much everything I write on the blog was shared with the young women in brooklyn over the last 3 years or so.

    MARY - Yes - the BIGGEST tip I can possibly give you is the most powerful one ever. Do it out of LOVE. Let go of yourself out of LOVE for your own children (born or unborn), love for your spouse (present or future), love for your family, your life, the opportunity to even have these experiences at all. Do it out of gratitude for this opportunity to become more refined, to be able to tap into the light as you let go of yourself more & more.....

  7. MARY- you can also do it out of love for a strangers or people you don't even like - ha!...because just like you, they are just trying to figure out this life. So try to think of them more...as in, they may not know the potential yet. But you do...so throw them a bone - because we're all in this together - we've got to help each other.

  8. Thank you for sharing this! I think I will link to this on my blog today. I've heard lots of women lately lament that their husbands don't show them enough love in return for their efforts. What I love about what you wrote is that what you send out into the world "will come back to you." Somehow, in some way, it will come back to you. You didn't say that the person you're trying to be nice to is automatically going to be nice back. And I think that's important to remember, too.

  9. Oh, this principle is absolutely true. Back in college I talked to a girl who always complained that no one ever came and sat down next to her in Relief Society. But I noticed that she always sat by herself and expected someone to come sit by her. If only she had realized that she could be the one to go sit next to someone instead of complaining about what she was lacking. It was a really poignant lesson for me that I have never forgotten.

  10. Thank you for posting this. I know it to be true, but life gets in the way and we need a reminder. So again, thank you.

  11. MARY - I guess I'll add to what Mara already wrote since my first impression was a little bit different than hers, even though I totally agree with what she said.

    This may sound kind of silly, but the best tip I can think of is....just do it! And know that it works!

    I remember there was a moment shortly after my ex-wife had moved out where nobody knew anything except for my family that lived 3000 miles away. I needed comforting, I needed someone to listen and understand, I needed to feel like everything was going to be okay. I needed to feel supported and loved...but I wasn't ready to tell anyone yet and so didn't know how I was going to get all of that until people knew and could have "pity" on woe-is-me-Danny. Then I went to church, silently bearing this burden, and found out about someone else that needed visiting. I asked if I could stop by that evening, and I went with the intent to offer my very best to someone else in need. I was determined to forget about my own problems for the evening and focus on this other family.

    That evening was one of the highlights during those dark days. I didn't even talk about my problems at all, but I listened to theirs. I told them that I loved them, I offered my council, my faith, my help, and promised to return to work with them to help them find a deeper and more meaningful happiness and faith.

    I left that house healed! In offering my very best to them, in speaking in love and kindness to this dear couple, in seeking to lift up another broken spirit...I was lifted, loved, and received their best. I left that home whole. And I cried out of joy on the way home. Still, there was no one who knew the burdens I was silently bearing...but it didn't matter...my needs were being met as I sought to meet the needs of others.

    So what's my big tip? Just do it. Commit to a more consistent way of living that revolves around lifting up those around you...and KNOW that you WILL BE LIFTED IN RETURN.

  12. I love this. Just today I was feeling frustrated about something I felt my husband was withholding, in a sense, from me. I realized that I needed to figure out how I could give of myself to him along those lines instead. As I started thinking of it in that way, instead of feeling critical and frustrated I felt compassion and love. My whole day changed for the better!

  13. I know you guys would like this:

  14. "Commit to a more consistent way of living that revolves around lifting up those around you...and KNOW that you WILL BE LIFTED IN RETURN." THIS is exactly what I need to hear!

    Carrying a baby to term is just one of the stressors I'm dealing with now - and sometimes it's so easy to wallow in my own stuff instead of keeping a positive attitude, instead of keeping my heart and mind open to all the good that's in my world.

    Mara & Danny - Thank you for your words and advice. I am so inspired by this blog on so many levels, and it is truly motivating to see two people who truly walk the walk. I feel blessed to have found you guys!

  15. ok, so that post actually made me cry.....Why?! I have no idea. Guess it was just something I needed to hear.....Thanks for what you guys do. I look forward to it every day.

  16. I have loved your blog from the first day a dear friend of mine introduced me to it. I couldn't figure out why, until today.

    Every time I have started to believe and live a new principle of life, love, internal harmony and harmony with God, I stumble upon one of your posts the correlates with what I have been looking for. I started living and giving and then found something to help me press on or confirm what I had been pondering.

    Danny and Mara, as I have been trying to give and live what I need, your blog has been returning it. Both of you have helped provide to me what I have been 'lacking'. Thank you!

  17. I am linking this to my fb page...I think everyone needs to read this. I am going out and getting Eckhart's two books right now! Thank you, once again, Mara and Danny for starting my day of in such an inspirational way!

  18. this is beautiful - thank you so much for sharing this post with us. I need to do this, more, but I actually have been trying to an extent, and it is absolutely true!

  19. Thank you for sharing so much of your insight. I have been reading your blog for awhile and just read A New Earth because of this post. So much of it resonated deeply with me and I am finding so much more peace and joy in the present moment, whatever that may be. That is something I was struggling with so thank you again for sharing. -Rachelle


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