We’re All in This Together

I love thinking that we’re all in this together.  Meaning, we are all here on this earth with the same purpose: to figure out what the heck this life is all about and to work to triumphantly overcome all that we are faced with.  None of us are immune to this plan.  We ALL must go through it.   
But once you understand it, it’s a beautiful process that is a privilege to go through.  And it unifies us all – each and every one…all over the world. 

This was all very clear to me one evening when I was waiting for the divorce to go through.

Back in those days, I spent a lot of time with the dearest women on the planet – my friends from Brooklyn.  That particular night, we all got together for a girls night at the movies.  As I sat there among these amazing women, it occurred to me that EVERY SINGLE one of us were facing some MAJOR trials at the time… perhaps the most difficult ones of our lives!  Look at this line-up:  One friend had a sweet baby that died in the hospital just a couple of months prior.  One had just lost her beloved father to cancer.  One had just been awakened in the night a few weeks earlier by her 30 year-old husband who just had a terrible stroke / brain aneurism, while her two children slept in the other room (he lived, but was in very critical condition & had months of rehab ahead of him.)  One dear friend just found out she had cancerous melanoma on her leg and was undergoing treatments, all the while being pregnant and having an already extremely high risk pregnancy requiring constant monitoring.  And then there was me, with a husband who had just left the country, whom I would never see again.  Crazy, huh?  Just a few girls hanging out – all watching the same movie –  all the while, our world as we knew it would never be the same.  But it was an honor to be with those strong, amazing women that night as we laughed & talked.  It is beautiful to know that we get to experience this life together.  And that we get to be unified by our experiences, by our love and by our desire to rise above all that we were faced with.  I watched with my own eyes as these women all faced their trials with grace, strength, hope & love.  I am truly amazed by them & many other women I have met since.  Their example of strength & faith will stay with me for the rest of my life.   

Love to all,


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  1. grandma kathleen October 31, 2011 at 7:31 am - Reply

    I knew there would be a post if I just waited up a little longer! And yes, we are "all in this together", even if we have been separated by many miles.

  2. deb sorensen October 31, 2011 at 10:10 pm - Reply

    don't know you…was referred by a friend. But I enjoyed this. Thank you.

  3. Creole Wisdom November 1, 2011 at 4:22 am - Reply

    So true. It's amazing when you think about strangers just walking down the street next to you and imaging what they are dealing with. It used to kind of bog me down, but then I remembered that they two have joy in their lives and I started to wonder what particular source of joy was theirs (maybe a grandchild, passionate career, love for cooking…)

    I love that your faith community rallied around you at that time. To me, that's one of the basic and important cornerstones of a church.

    Love your blog!

  4. Lacy@uphillandsmiling November 1, 2011 at 5:50 pm - Reply

    I loved this post, my friend told me to read it as well — it is so true. I don't know what I'd do without all the special people in my life who help me through. Thanks for your beautiful words. Best wishes.

  5. Mac November 3, 2011 at 10:45 pm - Reply

    One thing I've learned over the past couple of years is that we often don't know what the person next to us is going through. But we are all going through something. I haven't shared my struggle with friends, so I endure privately. And it helps me remember that many others are enduring privately as well. It helps me remember that we are all in this together.

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