Something Looming…

Something unfortunate is about to happen. It is not something I want to happen. BUT, I know better than to worry too much about it, because I’ve seen how the biggest blows in life have actually turned into MAJOR blessings……..for example…..

1. No baby/Infertility…. This inspired me to learn how to overcome a major trial. Learning my own divine power has been the key to learning how to be happy.

2. Divorce….This trial was an even bigger deal than the infertility, so this led to me feeling the power of deliverance EVEN STRONGER in my life. It gave me an opportunity to apply (again) what I knew and to see (again) that what I learned is universal for ALL trials, no matter which ones they are. Nothing could stop me after this. Going through the pain of a divorce was a drop in the bucket compared to the blessings I received during that time.

3. HARVEY FAIRCLOTH….This is a business I started with two friends shortly after my first husband left. Unfortunately, two years later I had to make the h-a-r-d decision to move onto other things. But it was a great blessing during that phase of my life. AND…. because I was in touch with a new friend regarding a Harvey shirt, she set me up with Danny!!!! 🙂

MUST. REMEMBER. THESE. EXPERIENCES!! Especially in a time like now.

It’s so silly that sometimes we THINK big bad experiences in life will do us in. But that will only happen if that’s how we perceive it. WE are the ones who let trials have power over us. It’s like when you’re a child and you think the boogeyman is under the bed….

Once you believe that something bad is really there & that it can ruin your life, that fear possesses us, and the boogeyman becomes our reality…

Right now, it’s a miracle to me that I am feeling fearlessness and trust and positivity running through me on the brink of this next major trial. Sometimes it’s hard to maintain this feeling, but I know that peace is possible no matter what the outcome and my oh my, it’s worth going for every moment of my days.

Can’t wait to see what great blessings will be coming to me next…. 🙂

Have any of you had big blows that ended up being big blessings? I’d really love to hear!

With love,


P.S. It has been so wonderful to hear from all of you! I am so new at this and had no idea how fun it could be for a blogger to read people’s lovely comments & emails! 🙂 Thanks to all of you !! xoxo

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  1. Natalie Jane October 7, 2011 at 3:39 am - Reply

    Infertility was a blessing to us. After knowing how badly we really wanted a baby, we were finally sent one. And we loved her. But she was a very (very) very difficult baby. Had I not had years dreaming of her, I'm not sure I would have made it through it all.

  2. iheartmesa October 7, 2011 at 7:29 am - Reply

    Okay, mine pale in comparison to some but…
    – 1. Leta and Annie were born 7 weeks early. It was a crazy time. Ryan about passed out in the delivery room when everything was going so fast – worry over me, worry over the babies. But, they were alive. They didn't get to come home right away and we had to pay several thousand dollars extra for our needed care, but the 9 day NICU time was my special time to sit with just them, nothing else to distract. I keep feeling like their early arrival was Heavenly Father protecting me from something bigger than a simple 9 day NICU stay.
    2 – financial changes. We simply like many others have had a big change in our financial status. I'm thankful for it because I've learned many valuable lessons. Some I already knew, some I just needed to make into habit, some I'm still learning.

    I'm working at being a non complainer because I fully anticipate getting to heaven and seeing the big picture of how every little trial was/is indeed Heavenly Father trying to save me, protect me, love me. I would be embarrassed to see myself complaining about someone's gift.

    Oh, this is your cousin Kathryn. I'm too tired and lazy to sign out of my other blog.

  3. Amanda Blair October 7, 2011 at 3:26 pm - Reply

    I recently, well a year ago, ended a really good relationship with a really amazing guy. At the time, I was confused, going through big changes (moving to NYC) and not in touch with myself…and I just broke up wit him out of the blue. I treated him really bad and then after some time, realized what I had done and tried to make it right but he had already moved on, and moved in with a new girlfriend. At first, I was devasted but I've since realized that he was the mirror I needed to show me what I had been doing wrong. The failure of that relationship woke me up from all my bad habits and the things i hadn't been dealing with and forced me to finally, deal. I'm so thankful for that experience now 🙂

  4. Greta October 8, 2011 at 12:34 am - Reply

    Hello, I've just discovere your blog and am really enjoying it. Immensly in fact.
    My husband and I have just come out og the darkest days of our marriage.
    I didn't know at the time, of course, how good it would be for us now.
    While I would never have asked for that pain, I can honestly praise God for the results. God CAN work all things together for good.
    But only if we let Him.
    Love from,

  5. Andi October 8, 2011 at 3:21 am - Reply

    Mark and I had a really rough year last year. Within about 3 months we found out my dad had another brain tumor, Mark lost his job, and my dad died. All while I was pregnant. I have to be honest and say I love Mark's new job way more than his old one, we get to see him so much more, and we're so much more open to change and taking a leap of faith when it comes to his work.

    My dad's passing wasn't really a blessing, but Heavenly Father's hand was definitely made evident to me through it all. I kept thinking of him when I was alone and finally decided I should go visit him. That was a couple weeks before we found out about the other tumor. I felt like he was going to die soon so I spent some time with him and had him give me a father's blessing. I really felt like it was time for him. I received a blessing from Mark before this and had seen my dad running in heaven. He had a stroke when I was little and was never able to run after that. After he died I had nightmares all the time, and after a blessing from Mark that was SO touching, I've never had another nightmare since. Heavenly Father is always there to help us through the crap. We just have to remember to ask for help.

  6. Mara Kofoed October 9, 2011 at 2:03 am - Reply

    You dear women – I am touched beyond belief. THANK YOU for sharing these stories. Wow. My heart is just bursting as I read these. You are all amazing & inspiring women & it is just awesome that anyone that reads here will be able to see what you wrote. So powerful. Thank you for sharing. I feel connected to you all as we work to overcome all of our individual trials. love, M

  7. Abbie November 1, 2011 at 6:10 pm - Reply

    I just found your blog, and feel so much hope from your words. My biggest trails have all come this year, all at once…a sudden divorce and my father being diagnosed with terminal brain cancer a month after I filed. I've found that the only way through this all is to focus on the blessings that have come. The suddenness of my divorce used to haunt me, until I realized that the timing allowed me to be living with my parents at the time they needed the most help and has provided me with extra time to spend with my dad. That was a true testament to me of God's hand in all things. As I read about the lessons you've learned, I realized I need to reflect some more and really turn these trials into treasured experiences. I'm on that path, but really need to be more conscious of it.

  8. mara November 3, 2011 at 5:53 pm - Reply

    Abbie, your note just made me melt. Thx for sharing. Crazy what life can hand us sometime. But it's almost like the bigger our trials, the bigger the reward if we continue on. I'll be thinking of you & sending you good wishes.

  9. Carin December 3, 2011 at 2:09 am - Reply

    Absolutely. And I have come to the same conslusions you have. The trials teach us so much and make us stronger, and the blows ALWAYS turn into blessings.

    Ok, the two BIG ones:

    I was bedridden for several years due to a bad back and have known physical pain like you would not believe. Yet I believe it to be one of the greatest blessing in my life. I learned so many lessons about myself during those years, developed greater empathy for others, deepened my faith, and so on.

    And like you, we also lived with infertility for many years (we decided very early on to say that WE were infertile because we felt were in it together). We now have two beautiful children, and I can truly appreciate every single minute of motherhood. It has made me a stronger, more confident mother. I have commited fully to every part of motherhood, and appreciate every day as a mother.

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