Love Story: How it All Began

This photo was taken in the few weeks before I met Danny.  But I was too shy to send him this one.

modern love story

I sent this one, instead.   Apparently sending him a picture of my butt was easier?!?  (I was actually showing him  my new haircut 🙂  This was the first photo I sent him.

So Danny and I were set up by a friend (by way of email).  Danny lived in Boston.  I lived in Brooklyn.  We basically knew we were going to get married after just one day of emailing.  Yep.  ONE DAY.  The many emails we exchanged that day were just that good.  And we already knew exactly what we wanted.  And we were really good at recognizing it.

Want to read the very first emails we exchanged??  Here you go.  They actually introduce a lot of the things we’ll be writing about on this blog.  The notes were pretty simple!  But I can’t tell you how meaningful they were to us both at the time.  Little did I know what would happen when I pushed send on this note and sent it off to a man I had just heard a tiny bit about.  Little did I know he would soon be my husband.


Subject: Hi…


Hi there. Sorry if you don’t know about me yet, but Ashley Harris says we must meet each other, when the time is right.

I normally would not write a guy like this. But I thought that because of your situation, you may be hesitant to write me. So I thought I’d just drop you a line to say hello.

Also, i am so sorry to hear about your situation. Same sort of thing happened to me. I still can’t believe it happened. And I am sure you feel the same way. But in my case it turned out to be such a life changing experience for me, in a good way, that I wouldn’t trade it. I’ve realized that life is just full of trials…which is the whole point of being here. So in the end, these experiences can be positive aspects of our lives. Life really is so beautiful. The good and the bad. Hopefully we’re both onto a lot of good !

And hopefully you get through this next phase. I remember those days. Drop me a line if you’d like. Or not. Whenever you’d like. It would be fun to get to know you, especially because we’ve had similar experiences. I actually have not yet dated a guy that has been divorced, but lately I have been wanting to… just because, in my book, guys that are or have been married certainly have an edge on the single guys out there. They just seem to understand life at a different level.

And all the best to you as you try to redefine your life.  It will come together.  You’ll be making out with women in no time.  What a trip !  Seriously.  You will die. It’s so crazy to be out there after being married….oh my, i can tell you stories.

Alright.  Better get back to work.

All best,

p.s. you are so dang handsome !


And Danny’s response to me is right here…. enjoy  :).  It kind of made my jaw drop! But he was just my kind of guy & I could tell right away. We just spoke the same language and you can’t make that up!

A modern love story

Hi Mara,
I think that has to be the best email/note I’ve ever received from someone I don’t even know. You made me laugh.

Ashley is pretty great isn’t she, I’ve loved the Harris family since I first met them the weekend after I moved to Boston…they’re good people. I can tell by the way she talked about you that she thinks the world of you…how can I resist meeting someone like that?  🙂

As for the life changing experience for the good…I couldn’t agree with you more. Though obviously very painful at times, the things I feel I’ve learned about life/love/faith are invaluable and wouldn’t trade them for anything (I’ve had more insights into the meaning of life and the role of God and faith in the past year then in all the rest of my years combined); add to that the closer relationship I’ve developed with my two already coolest parents in the world, and all in all I feel pretty lucky.

And about divorced people….man has my opinion changed! I’m not sure that before I would have really considered it. But yes, I agree, especially if we’ve taken the hits and come out with a good attitude, I think we’re pretty hot commodities! 🙂

So anyway, hello back to you, Mara. Thank you for thoughtful and entertaining note, it’s just what I needed to hear.  I can’t wait to meet.



p.s. you’re quite stunning yourself!

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  1. Shiloh September 28, 2011 at 1:26 pm - Reply

    um, so I am in love with both of you guys. seriously. I love this story.

  2. Sara Borg September 28, 2011 at 4:56 pm - Reply

    I was so excited to see another post. I'd hoped you wouldn't keep us waiting too long. 🙂

    This is adorable! I remember parts of your story when they were happening but I love getting to see all the details unfold.


    And yes you're both jaw dropping hot commodities!

  3. Melissa September 28, 2011 at 7:22 pm - Reply

    My friend Lizzie told me about your blog! What a good idea to share what you have learned through your trials and how to be happy. I love it so far!!

  4. Susan September 28, 2011 at 11:59 pm - Reply

    What adorable emails! I see why you fell for each other so quickly. I've found that being open, honest, and real gets me very far in making new friends.

    I cannot wait to read more! Also, you're about the only person I know who can look smashing in pink and red!!!

  5. Kathryn September 29, 2011 at 5:09 am - Reply

    Yay! You have a blog! I love reading cousin blogs and learning all the details that we miss out on being states apart. I'm glad you guys found each other.

  6. Erin September 29, 2011 at 1:49 pm - Reply

    how fun it was to read your first email exchange! you both are adorable!

  7. mara2 October 2, 2011 at 11:18 pm - Reply

    Dear friends – THANKS SO MUCH FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT ! 🙂 I appreciate it so much.

  8. Amanda Blair October 4, 2011 at 6:05 pm - Reply

    Awww..this is so romantic! I love it. I think it's so cool for you both to share this story but actually really helpful. Putting out this kind of love and optimism will touch so many lives now, and hopefully all the happiness will seep out from there.

  9. SAF October 5, 2011 at 3:37 am - Reply

    Uh, holy crud.

  10. SAF October 5, 2011 at 3:39 am - Reply

    More please 🙂

  11. Mara Kofoed October 7, 2011 at 12:42 pm - Reply

    Dear Readers – THX for the kind feedback! We decided to keep going with the 'Love Story' emails for awhile (we have over 500 pages of letters in a 10 font word doc. haha). So stay tuned for some further bits of that story….:)


  12. Mara Kofoed October 7, 2011 at 12:56 pm - Reply

    Amanda – so happy to hear that you find our story to be helpful…that was our hope. 🙂 We want people to know that when they find individual peace & happiness first, their love story can be out of this world.

  13. Tanya and Colin March 13, 2012 at 1:49 am - Reply

    Perfect match!

  14. Kimberly Black April 13, 2012 at 2:32 pm - Reply

    So, this reminds me exactly how my husband and I met! Almost to a tee 🙂 We just got married a few months ago, but have been living together for almost a year– so far it's been wonderful. I'm defiantly going to keep reading your blog for inspiration and helpful tips. Just wonderful!

  15. texas is for lovers April 20, 2012 at 9:38 pm - Reply

    Just came across your blog via pintrest. Spent an hour reading the different topics and listening to your podcast. Now I subscribe. 🙂
    Keep it coming you two! You both are inspirational.. gonna get the hubby to subscribe too!

  16. Anonymous July 13, 2012 at 4:14 am - Reply

    Oh my… how I love your story, I was like smiling in front of my laptop while reading it. What a wonderful couple you both!! God bless :)V

  17. Corine February 22, 2013 at 4:04 pm - Reply

    This story is BEAUTIFUL! 😀 How wonderful it is that you have your first conversations IN PRINT (I would love to go back in time and record or write ours down!)! 😀 Your love story with your husband reminds me of my husbands and mine in so many ways (no previous marriages – but the almost "instantly in love" I can relate to! – In fact, "our song" starts out "I knew I loved you before I met you. I think I dreamed you into life."). My husband and I hit it off immediately. But we didn't have text phones back then. We talked on the phone. For HOURS. Before our first date, we both already had that gut feeling that we would be married. On our FIRST date he looked into my eyes and sincerely told me, "Corine, one day I'm going to marry you." I laughed out loud (for sheer delight! :D) but couldn't believe I was thinking what I was thinking. I mean, I was only 18 and this was my first date with this dashing young man; how could I even CONSIDER thinking such things? 😮 So I "pretended" NOT to consider such things. And as I laughed I said to him, "yeah… right!" And then I thought to myself, "He Really IS going to marry me! :D" And my heart leapt for joy. 🙂

    That was 24 years ago. Oh, and by the way, we were officially engaged two months after that first date, and married two months later in the Portland Oregon Temple. 🙂 We now have four teenagers, and we are the best of friends.

    We have had our ups and downs. There have been serious challenges. Life has had it's share of thorns among the roses. And it has all been worth every thorn! I just keep falling in love with this man OVER AND OVER AGAIN! 😀 I know how much Heavenly Father has blessed me by giving me this sweet man, just as I knew when we were engaged to be married how blessed I was. I wish I had remembered that always – as the newness faded and the trials came, I sometimes forgot… I'm thankful that though that – He never did… And I never can again. He is the other half that makes me whole. He is my eternal friend… 🙂

    Wishing you many wonderful years together, now and throughout eternity…
    Corine 😀

  18. LouLou in Paris June 10, 2013 at 2:18 pm - Reply

    Hello Mara and Danny! I've just discovered your blog (via Natthefatrat) and i can't wait to read through your posts! This particular one is so darn cute – reading your email and then Danny's response to it was like seeing two souls literally connect. I've been with my man for 4 years now (i moved from the UK to Paris for our relationship) and i hope to be with him forever and ever! It sounds like you have both travelled fairly bumpy roads to get to the happy place that you are today, so well done for surviving the trip! Lou xx

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