|This photo was taken in the few weeks before I met Danny. But I was too shy to send him this one.|
|I sent this one, instead. Apparently sending him a picture of my butt was easier?!? (I was actually showing him my new haircut :) This was the first photo I sent him.|
So Danny and I were set up by a friend (by way of email). Danny lived in Boston. I lived in Brooklyn. We basically knew we were going to get married after just one day of emailing. Yep. ONE DAY. The many emails we exchanged that day were just that good. And we already knew exactly what we wanted. And we were really good at recognizing it.
Want to read the very first emails we exchanged?? Here you go. They actually introduce a lot of the things we'll be writing about on this blog. The notes were pretty simple! But I can't tell you how meaningful they were to us both at the time. Little did I know what would happen when I pushed send on this note and sent it off to a man I had just heard a tiny bit about. Little did I know he would soon be my husband.
- Subject: hi
Hi there. Sorry if you don't know about me yet, but Ashley Harris says we must meet each other, when the time is right.
I normally would not write a guy like this. But I thought that because of your situation, you may be hesitant to write me. So I thought I'd just drop you a line to say hello.
Also, i am so sorry to hear about your situation. Same sort of thing happened to me. I still can't believe it happened. And I am sure you feel the same way. But in my case it turned out to be such a life changing experience for me, in a good way, that I wouldn't trade it. I've realized that life is just full of trials...which is the whole point of being here. So in the end, these experiences can be positive aspects of our lives. Life really is so beautiful. The good and the bad. Hopefully we're both onto a lot of good !
And hopefully you get through this next phase. I remember those days. Drop me a line if you'd like. Or not. Whenever you'd like. It would be fun to get to know you, especially because we've had similar experiences. I actually have not yet dated a guy that has been divorced, but lately I have been wanting to... just because, in my book, guys that are or have been married certainly have an edge on the single guys out there. They just seem to understand life at a different level.
And all the best to you as you try to redefine your life. It will come together. You'll be making out with women in no time. What a trip ! Seriously. You will die. It's so crazy to be out there after being married....oh my, i can tell you stories.
Alright. Better get back to work.
p.s. you are so dang handsome !
And Danny's response to me is right here.... enjoy :) [Personally, it made my jaw drop. But he was just my kind of guy & I could tell right away. We just spoke the same language and you can't make that up!]
I think that has to be the best email/note I've ever received from someone I don't even know. You made me laugh.
Ashley is pretty great isn't she, I've loved the Harris family since I first met them the weekend after I moved to Boston...they're good people. I can tell by the way she talked about you that she thinks the world of you...how can I resist meeting someone like that?
As for the life changing experience for the good...I couldn't agree with you more. Though obviously very painful at times, the things I feel I've learned about life/love/faith are invaluable and wouldn't trade them for anything (I've had more insights into the meaning of life and the role of God and faith in the past year then in all the rest of my years combined); add to that the closer relationship I've developed with my two already coolest parents in the world, and all in all I feel pretty lucky.
And about divorced people....man has my opinion changed! I'm not sure that before I would have really considered it. But yes, I agree, especially if we've taken the hits and come out with a good attitude, I think we're pretty hot commodities!
So anyway, hello back to you, Mara. Thank you for thoughtful and entertaining note, it's just what I needed to hear. I can't wait to meet.
p.s. you're quite stunning yourself!